and please don't say anything along the lines of "nice guys are nice to get laid" because I have never in my life met a nice guy (me included) who thought nice was gonna get him laid. Rather we thought that nice would be reciprocated by a potential person who saw that we actually cared for people and the world, and that would make us attractive boyfriend material. Which obviously isn't the case. So what must a nice guy do to add value that will make him attractive?
Most Helpful Girl
I think what most nice guys forget is to have confidence within themselves. Nice guys are definitely attractive boyfriend material, but from my experience, most nice guys that I have met are very shy and timid. I think it's cute, but I like guys who have a strong sense of who they are, are proud of it, and have the courage to ask a girl out because they know that they are worth the shot.1
Most Helpful Guy
You have to be a "tender defender", i. e. kind to her, but also assertive verbally and physically. She has to feel that you're strong and able to protect her, but also that you're gentle.
The problem about being "nice" is that we usually do it to seduce the woman, but most women would rather have a straight-up guy who is genuinely nice when appropriate, rather than when most horny/infatuated.
This explains it better than me: