I just need to know if I'm the only girl who isn't crazy jealous or possessive about things like that... what's your opinions girls and guys.
Most Helpful Guy
I'd let her (no-contact) flirt with other guys, but not sleep with them. She is also free to flirt with women, and should feel free to sleep with them as well. That's pretty much my boundaries.
But that's just in general. The specifics would depend on the nature of our relationship. I. e. if we were 'swingers,' of course I wouldn't object to her sleeping with another guy, as long as I got to sleep with his significant other as well. But there are only certain types of girls that I would be comfortable having this kind of relationship, and only certain types of couples that I would be comfortable "spouse swapping" with. So, it's all subjective, really..1
Most Helpful Girl
You're not a alone. There are women out there who separate love from sex and are okay with having a partner or even getting married to someone and both or one person continues to have sex with others. Relationships that involve BDSM, cuckolding/cuckqueaning, friends with benefits, or that are just "open" relationships are this way.
Flirting is usually harmless especially if the guy seems to flirt with everyone including his own woman still. But if he stops flirting with his own woman and specifically flirts with one woman, sometimes that isn't so great with a lot of women. It's a sign that he's showing a preference for another women, and not many women feel so great that their own man responds to other women before her.
Sharing their partner sexually is a bit extreme for a lot of couples. Most do not want their partner to openly stray because monogamy is a bit more than just showing sexual favouritism to one partner, but STDs play a factor today more than ever. Most women would not agree to this arrangement even if a man is up front about it rather than cheat behind her back.
The jealousy emotion can be brought on from a lot of things, not just from sex and flirting. Some partners become jealous if they think their man is preferring ANYone over them, including family members or guy friends.
I think if each partner knows their limits then expectations on what's okay and not okay can be determined early in the relationship. There has to be a lot of honesty going on here for them to conclude whether or not something like an extra sex partner is going to be had from the other partner who claims they will be fine with it. If someone is not honest about any of this, then introducing an alternate sex life to the other partner will be very hurtful for both to learn later on that it wasn't okay.
I, myself am not jealous by nature but do draw the line if my husband has sex with someone else, and engages in heated flirting with another woman. If he just compliments a woman or says something sexual on the fly (it's usually in front of me anyway), I don't care because I know his personality and knows that a lot of times what he says is an accident anyway. LOL0