Until marriage for adult stuff... But she used to hook up a lot... And I'm left feeling why me? Why if I'm the "one" she wants to want for it all with me when she's literally given it to guys the day she met them? Is there something wrong with me?
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Wow, great question! I think this is more about her not liking her past behavior and trying to turn over a new leaf. Sleeping around is something that is now a negative thing to her. This is very troubling. She may also now think that sex in general is something "dirty" or "immoral" and she feels if she waits all will be forgiven about her past. The thing is, will she actually start to enjoy sex again if she waits, or is this something she will always feel is wrong or bad? Personally for me, sex has to be part of a relationship. If she doesn't want it and prefers to wait, I respect that. She also has to respect that I want and need it, and therefore we are not compatible and need to date other people. So either she looks at you as someone who is different, someone she does want to spend the rest of her life with and has higher regard for, or you are simply unlucky with bad timing and the first guy she has started seeing after she decided "no more sex". So it depends on how the relationship is going. If she is a super awesome person and you can see yourself being happy with her, maybe she is worth the wait. Personally, I would never marry someone I do not know 100%. How can you know someone fully if you never had sex with them? So really, why should you marry someone you don't fully know? Tough spot to be in. Then the other question is, is it just intercourse she wants to wait for, or is it all sexual activities? There would be no way in hell I would wait to marry someone who never wanted or let me perform even oral sex. It isn't fair to her to do things she doesn't want, but it is also unfair to you to without things you do want. I would be worried she doesn't look at you as a sexual partner at all and such a change in sexual behavior is a red flag to me!2