I tried finding online becuase I'm skinny and obssesedwith building muscle to an un healthy extent and I realized I have unrealistic expectations but how can I feel better baout my body when women like althetic fit men with rock hard abs? and all I got is skin an bones
1. Stop comparing yourself to others. 2. Realising people have different preferences and find different things attractive. You will be someone's type / ideal. 3. Focus your thoughts on something else like a hobbie. 4. Try to better yourself. For you it could be going to the gym. It takes a long time to see results. Follow a work out and nutrition plan from http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/find-a-plan.html and stick to it.
I work on them. I didn't like being a bit doughy and out of shape, so I bought a mountain bike, rode hard all summer long and until it was too cold to ride in the fall, and dropped nearly 20lbs.
I didn't like being skinny and not having as much strength as I wanted, so I got a gym membership and hit the weights at least once a week.
Combine that with eating right, cutting down on booze, and I've noticed a real change in the last 18 months. Yes, 18 months. This is a lifestyle change, not an overnight thing. Results take time and effort.
Muscle doesn't build in a couple days. It takes weeks, months and even years. I started working out regularly back in March, and I only see results now. You should either change your training plan or your diet. Can you give details about your lifestyle?
Not every woman wants a ripped man, loads of women find it appealing when men aren't as built, loads (me included) would also find a very athletic man way to high maintenance. Just work with what you've got and the right person will come along.
To be honest, muscles really aren't my thing. I have an unhealthy obsession with being thin and I'm still learning how to deal with it. Just remember that nobody is perfect. We all have our flaws. So instead of trying to hide them, be proud of them. Most girls want a hot bod and most guys want a hot bod, but what's hot to one could be not to another and vice versa. Don't feel like you have to look a certain way to get a girl. Just be you.
When I start body hating, I have to switch things up or else I get really depressed. I start painting and drawing. Or I do community service. Basically I just stop thinking about myself so much and start thinking about others. Avoid social media and don't spend too much time in front of the mirror. It'll help you focus on something other than the way that you look, because in the grand scheme of things, it's really not that important.
You have a slim figure and in your mind skin and bones. She has a muscular figure and in her mind bulky and big ! I personally am into the skinny geeky type :P It took me awhile to realize that each male and each female have different preferences ! For example I found this guy at the mall insainly attractive my best friend thought I need to get new contacts because he is butt ugly ! Another example is I am in the muscular categorie and I hate it. I feel big and thick - bulky ! Not fat not skinny , but muscular ! I was very much into this man , so was my co worker who in my opinion out did me in beautiful! Tall , skinny , blond hair , blue eyes , BARBIE DOLL ! Did you know this man choose me... he said that girl wasn't his type ! It's all opinion and if you don't find yourself making you happy , you can work your ass off to change it ! But there are people who find you beautiful and when you change yourself - won't !
As a female who has many female friends (and we all share our thoughts on guys) I can honestly say that being athletic isn't as important as being healthy, I'm not gonna deny I wouldn't like staring at rock hard abs but at the end what matters is the personality and both myself as well as my friends have dated our fair share of guys who didn't have abs and it was never a big deal, any girl who deserves you needs to be able to look past the surface. So don't feel bad about yourself because confidence is sexier than any 6 pack so self hating will only be a turnoff. Also if you really want a bit of muscle I recommend much protein and for your body to absorb the most of it you need to have it after you exercise not before (in case you didn't know.) Also don't overwork yourself. I have seen even the most unlikely candidates find true love. Also you can't stress about something like this there's no way you're not going to find someone so stop scaring yourself.
a lot of girls like skinny guys but if you want to build muscle get a gym membership and get someone that works there to help you some trainers only cost 20 bucks also protein is very important eat lots of protein veggies you could even drink you're protein gain weight first and then turn it into muscle my lighting weight or do it at the same time good luck
If you're that desperate for female approval you will still not get it even if you manage to get "rock hard abs". Desperation is not desireable no matter how attractive you are. Come to terms with the fact that you're not physically attractive. And guess what 98% of the worlds population aren't the ideal either so you're not alone.
yo im 5'11" 148 and what here in the US would call buff. I was so skinny in elementry that one day i just chose to start lifting. ( my arms use to be so skiny you could go thumb touching pinky finger up to my armpit
I went to the gym, then I got a job where I walked 10 miles a day. Then I got a job where I move heavy things around 600-1200 lbs every 45 minutes. Now I'm not worried about how I look, I'm worried that my work has given the idea to fat entitled girls that they have any reason to pretend to think that they deserve me and my efforts.