If she wants to see whether she can "teach me a lesson," then she's really not leaving me any other choice... other than:
1. Show her that I'm a good little boy and I will tolerate this behavior going forward and am open to "learning lessons" from mommy or Professor Alwaysright; or,
2. Show her that I'm a person too, and that her fantasy of being a mommy or teacher with me is something that is unfortunately just a fantasy.
Now, when faced with that choice, which one do you think a guy is going to pick?
A guy would have to give that girl the proverbial, "fuck you," the metaphorical finger, and simply continue life without her in his life.
"Sex was meh/whatever, but that girl has issues with men and she had a controlling personality."
If a girl wants to control a guy, especially this early in the relationship, only God knows what is to come in the years to come. Fuck that sh*t, not waiting to find out. Abandon the motherf*cking ship!
Well, I wouldn't ignore her for four days in the first place. But if I did, I'd be sad. But that's my own fault for ignoring her. Granted, I need my own time to myself. If she decided to come back, I don't know. I guess it depends on how I'm feeling and if I'm seeing anyone at the time. I suppose I might be willing to give her a chance, but that is quite a questionable "might".
Well... it just depends on how well you explained it. I would be mad if it was just a random cancel , especially because I am type A. That said, if he understands the thought process and what your concerns were, he should be understanding and respectful of that. If you value the relationship, the thing you must avoid at all costs is making him feel like a child. A lot of a younger guy's self esteem is tied to his girl friend. If he feels like you are trying to be his Mom, he'll leave.
The question you need to ask is, was your origionAl assumption (that he is using you for sex) correct? The facebook message thing makes me think that you may have been right and he was using you. The key to keeping your relationships safe is to be firm in your decisions and bounderies. If you decide the relationship is going the wrong direction, LEAVE for GOOD.
Congradulations on getting out of your previous abusive relationship. It takes guts to make that jump, so good job and best wishes!
If a girl cancels a date (or does anything else) for no other reason than to 'teach me a lesson' the lesson I learn is to get a new girlfriend. I am not thier child, if I want instructon from them I will ask for it or if they think I need it they can offer it to me like one adult human being to another, not like I am a dog that needs training.