She needs it to buy a car. She explained everything to me. I do trust her but when it comes to money it's tough for me cause i got burned in the past. I do trust her with everything. She said she would get the money back to me in 3 weeks.
No, you'll end up on Judge Judy or Rinder. One lesson that's taught me - NEVER LEND A LOT OF MONEY TO A girlfriend OR boyfriend.
If she can give you the money in 3 weeks, then she should wait until then to buy the car. If she can't, then tough luck. How does she think other people manage without a boyfriend to lend them so much money?
If you're not comfortable about lending it, then don't. It's a lot of money to lose out on if anything does go wrong (and trust me, they do). I'm sure you know that relationships can change very quickly. It's up to you though.
IF this was me, I would like to think that my girlfriend of 4yrs would be able to come up w/ $1000 by herself! More to your question, the very fact that you have phrased it that "She WANTS $1000 from me." Worries me a tad bit, you should if not already start doing research into how she actually spends her money on a daily, weekly and monthly basis to substantiate in LENDING (key phrase here) her a grand. Even then, I would go as far as to being a co-signer on a care so to cover your ass and know that your hard-earned money is actually being spent a on a legit working car and not a damn lemon that will end up at the local garage in 2 months of ownership. Trust is one thing but actions speak a whole lot more than words can.
You know her since 4 years so I think you'll be fine. Also, I don't know how much 1000$ are for you but generally it is not something that you're not gonna be able to earn back in a short amount of time so it's surely nothing that will make you go indebted.
My husband ALWAYS gives me money. Even before we were married. He was actually the one who always kept asking me if i got enough money in my wallet and made sure i was never short. Very importent to me to have a man that takes care of me in every way. I always pay everything back because thats just me, but he wouldn't mind even if i would not. I feel like you are being very stingy. Your girlfriend of 4yrs is in need and you question helping her. Not very manly of you
i think you should lend her the money IF you trust her. And 4 years in a relationship is a long time so i don't think she would wait 4 good years to get the money out of you. Do what you think is the best tho, u know your relationship better then anyone else.
If you've been together for four years and you guys don't have any extreme financial troubles right now and no shady business, I say go for it. Don't let complications from way back affect you now. Trust is absolutely crucial to preserve a relationship.
"Trust is the prerequisite to deceit." - Hebrew proverb
Then she should have no problem signing a "promissory note," and having it notarized before a notary public to make the document self-authenticating. Additionally, she should have no problem with language which entitles you to all reasonable costs and attorneys' fees in enforcing the terms of the promissory note, litigating in a trial or appellate court, or enforcing a money judgment and collecting upon a money judgment.
Otherwise, good luck enforcing, and good luck collecting.
My general rule of thumb is that you should not have sex with anyone you would not lend a $1000 to. She's your girlfriend of 4 years. She's not going anywhere. Lend her the money (with clearly defined terms of repayment in writing to keep thing clear.)
Four years is quite a while. Personally, if it were me i'd just hand her the thousand dollars as long as I didn't expect my life to unravel if I didn't get it back. If I didn't get it back then I know what I need to know and it will have been $1000 well spent.
You've been together for 4 years dude... She should at least have earned some if not most of your trust already and if she was only after your money, why would she wait 4 years for that and if she was really just after getting money from you, she would probably ask for something bigger than $1000
Think about her mental process and the loan in question... she needs $1000 to cover the car. $1000 is obviously going to be used with the amount she has to offer for it. Maybe it's a car she really wants, a car that is really worth the money and a steal, etc... so it's simply and innocent ask for money (i. e she isn't going to run away).
How long have you together... that should further indicate the innocence.
No, you shouldn't lend her $1,000, you should give it to her. You are worried about a measly $1,000? Why aren't you giving her that much a week, or at least a month?
When I was 42, I had a 18 year old girlfriend who was about to turn 19, a professional advertising model at that. I bought her a car for her birthday.
If you are going to be a little boy, a man can steal your girlfriend.
I never loan money to friends and loved ones. I'll give it as a gift if I'm so inclined, not expecting anything back. I'm baffled as to why she can't wait three weeks to get her car, when she knows she'll have the money.
She is your girlfriend after all. As her boyfriend, shouldn't you have the obligation to help her resolve her problem, especially in terms of money?