In my mid-twenties, I finally have the pleasure of observing how I used to date, how I date now, and how I may date in the future. Many of the women with whom I used to associate claimed that they were more mature than guys at their age. So, they would either be really disappointed in the guys their age that they were dating or used that reason as an excuse to date older guys. In hindsight, however, I'm realizing that those young girls were just as mature as the guys surrounding them. Additionally, dating some of those younger women while in my mid-twenties reveals the same conclusion. Am I trippin'? Or is the claim that women are more mature than men played out?
- Guys and Girls are Equally Mature, more or lessVote A
- Girls are More MatureVote B
- Girls Mature Faster, but Guys Catch up EventuallyVote C
- Guys are More MatureVote D
Most Helpful Girl
I believe this is largely a myth, as the gap is shown statistically to narrow around the early/mid 20's. Older guys often use this line, but I've found that a lot of them are full of crap. A 44 year old guy in an Abercrombie shirt doing vegasbombs with 21 year old girls on Thursday nights is often not personally mature. A guy like Jordan Belfort (Wolf of Wall Street), despite having external signs of success, is not mature. These are the two types I see telling younger females that men are automatically less mature. Likewise, the girls who repeat this phrase are often using it to cover their own selfish interests, such as financial gain.
Maturity is a largely individual trait based on personality, character and past experiences.2
Most Helpful Guy
Option C. While it is true women as a group go through the changes in puberty earlier, and they do mature at a younger age than men, they are more mature than boys of the same age typically. However, by the late teens and early 20s both finish maturing. That doesn't mean that once you finish maturing you will automatically ACT mature though. I've seen guys and dated women as old as 30 that still acted as if they were in High School!
I think what the women are saying is that they want a relationship, and a lot of younger guys that they are trying to get it from just want to hookup. So they date older guys who are more likely to be open to what they want.
If that is the case, then it is not a biological thing, as much as those guys their age just don't want a relationship, and they do.0