I often have girls on here going off about how my standards are irrational, even though I didn't even tell them what my standards are. So let me go through them. It's a bit of a mixed thing.
What I would approve of, generally:
1) Sweetness 2) Shyness 3) Assertive 4) They like to joke around 5) They are my race (white) or any other race 6) They form their own opinions 7) They are physically/emotionally affectionate 8 ) They try to see the brighter side of things 9) They wouldn't mind telling me off if it was necessary
What I specifically would not approve of:
1) They are morbidly obese. People here assume I am overweight, yet I have been working out for over 10 years now. I take care of my body in many ways. 2) They are generally angry about things, and use different philosophies to take that anger out on others. 3) They are overly promiscuous.
That's about it, honestly. I'd like to tell myself my standards are not too high, but I'm sure some people would disagree.
Yes, you have very high standards and you are wrong to think that way
No, your standards are not high and you are fine to think like that
And you are? I'm a GirlGuys can not vote on this poll
Nope. They are not irrational. Obviously there's no point in me asking who you are on this site, but why would people assume you're obese if you say you work out and are fit? That part sounded weird. All the standards - sounds normal and fair - as long as none of them are hypocritical that is.
i always find it concerning when people are like ~i only date my own race~ which is a genuinely irrational thing to say and feel lol. but hey, at least you're honest. as a multiracial latina, i've always been careful to avoid guys like that, so it's a huge help that you're upfront about how you feel.
I voted yes, but I'm inda in the middle. Some are okay, some are far-fetched. The most ridiculous one is you want her to be assertive, tell you off if needed, AND be shy? tf? If she's shy then she's not gonna do that so that's a conflicting standard that isn't realistic.
You should have high standards, it doesn't make sense to date someone who isn't great. I don't know though about "They are my race (white) or any other race," you could probably leave that off since everybody is either white or some other race =P
To be honest I think your standards are pretty decent and I think people only say your standards are too high because they are offended they aren't everything you want in a woman. People want to think everyone wants them but when someone specifically rules them out they are bound to get angry and without a right. Like those people need to get over themselves.
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