I have two friends who've been dating for a while and one of them recently cheated on the other (met up with another person knowing something was going to happen and they kissed) and told me because they knew that I wouldn't be able to get angry at them or have the guts to tell the other partner. I have been told by friends that this is why they told me and it makes me feel betrayed. But I've been trying to figure out the right thing to do because the person who cheated has told me they won't do it again but they're still talking to the person they cheated with which I think is a big no no. And if I had been cheated on and one of my friends knew, I would want to know about it straight away but I feel like the worst person even though I didn't do the dirty work. I know the partner that cheated won't speak up at all because they dont think what they did was that bad. And the partner that was cheated on will continue to do everything to please the other just to keep their relationship afloat because they don't know whats going on. I know its not my place to say anything but i've already tried to point the partner that was cheated on in the right direction to find out but they're so clueless because they'd never assume this would happen to them.
- Tell the partner they've been cheated onVote A
- Keep it to myselfVote B
Most Helpful Guy
the fact that your female friend is putting you under a lot of stress by her not making you tell it, says it all. she is a louzy friend, if you like that guy, maybe tell him but be prepared for some serious consequences. you could end up losing 2 friends , but if it comes out and she tells him you didn't tell him either he feels betrayed. its either a win lose situation or a lose lose situation. i think the only good thing you could do, is by telling him that you need to speak to him, that you won't tell him whats wrong, but that his girlfriend has to do some serious explaining. that you care about him, and that you deserve the truth out of her mouth. she will hate you for it, but do you need a friend who has no morals? or you give her an ultimatum and tell her how you feel, how it upsets you that she makes you keep your mouth shut, for all the wrong reasons. tell her if she won't tell him within 2 days, that you will inform him and he will ask her personally. i always say this, people can make 2 types of mistakes. 1. sometimes we hurt the people we love not willingly, and sometimes we hurt the people we love knowing it will hurt them. the 2nd type of mistake is an act of pure selfishness.1
Most Helpful Girl
yes they deserve to know that they've been cheated on3