You know how you see movies and television shows and they portray a guy who has an interest in a girl to be all starry eyed and slightly obsessed with the girl and wanting her so badly and doing anything to get her, from the very second he meets her?
Is it like that in reality too or not? Or do girls typically grow on a guy? Like does it take time for a guy and a girl to start liking each other? Because my crush knows I like him and he said he's willing to spend time with me, but he's never acted like boys in TV and movies. He's never done the whole "I want you and I'll stop at nothing to get you."(But then again we barely know each other so, is that to be expeced?) he just being mature? The closest thing I've ever gotten to a compliment from him is him telling his friend I'm cute.
Is my crush just being mature and this is how reality is or should I be expecting him to act all head over heels like TV/movie guys.
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The "rule" is that guys either fall in love almost immediately (generally, the first time he spends a bit of time with the girl), or never does. There's usually no in-between.
Obviously, with any "rule" there will be exceptions, but these are fairly rare. Guys generally do not "grow" to love girls the way many girls grow to love guys - guys usually fall for a girl quickly, or not at all.
Now, having said this, there ARE times when it takes a guy a while to find the courage to TAKE ACTION on his feelings, or, if he's just recently been hurt or in a bad relationship, to open himself up again, but that's not really the same thing.
Another thing different between men and women - men do not fall in love due to having sex with a girl, while girls often (perhaps usually) fall in love with guys they have sex with, even if they were only "friends" to start with.
For these reasons, it's important that women understand this, and don't set themselves up with unrealistic expectations.1
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