If she does it occasionally and not during days when we're going to get intimate, I'm OK with it.
What I find kind of odd is how (somehow) smoking has become a moral character issue. I'm fine with it being a health issue, but to think that someone is of low moral fiber simply for smoking is just bullshit to me. Hitler didn't smoke. He actively discouraged it among his officers. Richard Ramirez didn't smoke. Churchill smoked like a chimney, as did FDR. Lincoln smoked on occasion. Einstein (quite the pacifist) smoked.
If someone eats a candy bar a day (which will probably kill you sooner than smoking a cigarette a day), his/her moral fiber isn't in question (though perhaps his/her judgment about health is). Smoke a cigarette a day and somehow you're worse than Idi Amin (another non smoker, btw).
For the record, I do smoke, but not cigarettes. I smoke a pipe or a cigar about once a month. My wife liked the aroma of my pipe (and it was just tobacco, not pot) but wouldn't kiss me for at least a day afterward, and I was OK with that. She hated my cigars and generally vacated the house when I smoked them, or she asked I smoke them outside.. We agreed that I could do it once a month (sometimes more if there was a holiday... I liked smoking my pipe at Christmas and cigars on Independence Day).
I would never date someone who's currently a smoker. I'm not a smoker, nor have I ever been.
If they dabbled in smoking in the past, it's usually okay so long as they've dropped that habit. My current boyfriend used to smoke (not much, maybe once cigarette/week) and dropped it after a few months. I'm cool with that. He still craves it when someone who's smoking is nearby but I assure him he's much better off not smoking a cancer stick.
My previous girlfriend was a smoker and quit before she met me. About 4 months in she was in a new group and they were all heavy smokers and it went form bumming a smoke here and there when on nights out, to keeping her vaporizer on her at all times, taking breaks at work etc. Well when she just up and started smoking in front of me, I was pretty shocked and upset as I really don't like smoking. Basically, I told her not to do it around me, when she is over at mine or before she is coming over to see me. She was pretty upset with me at the time, and felt I was being controlling, but it was more the shocking nature of not knowing this was a thing for a months, and she was hiding it from me. Plus, I felt deceived as she was a nonsmoker when we met, and I would never have dated here form the start if she were a smoker.
In the end, she stopped outright because she realized just how bad she had regressed and the effect it had on me when she smoked around me.
Smoking is such a big turn off for me that they'd have to be practically perfect in every other way. Not a deal breaker, but seeing how that isn't very likely, I voted A. Smoking is a bad and expensive addiction to get into.
Huh i really don't like the idea of cigarette smoking cause second hand smoke is just as bad as the smoker but i would date someone who social smokes but chain smoking is serious idea i really am in doubts of dating a smoker ,
Smoking is just disgusting, bad for your health. It also shows that you do things which are bad for you to "better" fit in a social circle. I prefer people who think on their own, know whats good for them and whats not
I don't know, I just went out with someone who smokes and it didn't really bother me because he wasn't smoking while we were together. I guess as long as he doesn't smoke around me and he doesn't leave my company to smoke and then come back smelling like smoke. Also he should respect the fact that I don't smoke and I wouldn't want to try it.