It seems like with how fast paced the world is today, almost all relationships start off with physicall attraction and move on to friendship. And it seems like being friends with somebody first and having it become a relationship is falling to the side; which is sad because those tend to be the relationships that are the most successful and last the longest. I think this has a lot to do with the fact that everything in the first world today is so fast paced that if you try and take that direction, it's never going to work because we expect everything to be upfront and immediate.
Do you think that being friends first is falling to the wayside?
I'm not too sure because I know people who started out as friends and then it developed into more. However for me all my ex's were guys I started dating from the start. Like we'd meet and instantly start the dating process. The reason behind this is that I can tell within minutes of meeting someone whether there is attraction or a spark. So naturally if I feel wow this guy is really doing it for me then I'll want to pursue him and won't be able to just settle with friendships as I'm too scared of him thinking I'm only interested in friendship and losing interest.
It's not falling to the wayside. It never used to happen decades ago. In my parents day, close platonic opposite sex friendships would have been shockingly rare. Dating was much more obvious.
In my great grandparents day, courting existed, not dating.
As for what you're seeing, I don't think anything has changed in the last 15 years or so. What you are likely seeing is your own peers giving up on 'friendship first'.
It happens sometimes, it happens most often when you're 16 and never dated anyone and are interested in a friend, and it's a terrible dating approach going forward as an adult. Not because it never works, but because it rarely works, and it's far too slow to invest the time before finding you can't even get a first date.
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