I know this guy for a long time, we were friends with benefits for 2 months but then he told me he couldn't keep being my friend with benefits because he wanted to start a serious relationship with one of my friends. I was okay with that and they dated for 5 months I think. They broke up yesterday and now he is telling me he wants me back 😒 I like him, but he just broke up with her and she's my friend! He is telling me I shouldn't tell her and just be with him. I think that would be sooo bitchy for me to do to my friend, but I'm seriously thinking about doing it anyway. Should I? I mean... They broke up and she knew we had something. It's not the first time my "friend" goes after some dude I like, so she's not like the best girl on the universe, but she's nice and I'm very very confused.
That is a scum bag Steve right there. He banged you, dated your friend, dumped her, and now suddenly wants you? First and foremost: if he didn't think you were good enough in the beginning that is an immediate X, especially since you were just sex to this guy. Secondly, he got into a relationship with your FRIEND (as in a person who has ALWAYS cared about you and found you worth it). Now he dumps her and is running to you for the rebound and telling you to not tell her? He's a total shit head!
Don't do it. Especially if he said to not tell her. That sounds like he's a distrustful person. Plus it could ruin a friendship. You seem to really like the guy and your mind will try to devalue your friendship with the girl to justify you dating him but don't. There are other guys out there. Relationships come and go much easier than friendships.
\you should be good friend an ask her for her advice /or\ just be a bitcxh and go out with him and end you relationship with your friend /or \you could just say my friendship is worth more than a relationship with you to the dude but its you choice/
She went out with him knowing you liked him. Therefor, its fair game. No true friend would do that to you, ever. No matter what the circumstance. If you like him, go with him. There's no point in even telling her where it is truly none of her business what you do with him. I have had a "friend" like this before. Everytime I told her I liked someone, she would end up dating them a few days later and then try blaming me for it. She had no care in the world. I knew she was bad news after years of hanging out with her. I got a boyfriend (I am still with him 4 1/2 years later) and we ended up getting pregnant. The minute this "friend" found out we were having a child, she decided to start emailing my boyfriend about how "hot he was" and how he "deserved a real woman". You do you hun. Clearly this clear is bad news, just like my friend was. If you want him, you go get him! Don't let her hold you back from your happiness.