He's really smart and I just feel very... stupid. How to stop?
Most Helpful Guy
So he isn't actually doing anything to make you feel stupid its just that you feel like your stupid when your with him? If thats the case then keep in mind its not something that just is. Do you feel weak when someone is stronger then you? Slow when someone is faster? Does it bother you when someone is a better cook then you? The fact is you get to a certain point because of training. If he is smart its because he refined his mind through reading and thinking. It would be no more logical to feel bad that a proffesional athlete is better then you at there respective field then it is to feel bad about your boyfriend being "smarter". There are things your gonig to be good at and things you will not. If you train hard enough you can get better at them, if you don't you won't. He trained his mind and if you feel "stupid" in comparison then its only because he put in so much more time then you did. Its not an insult, I don't feel bad when a muscle bound guy is stronger then me because I know he spent hours every day training to get to that point, he earned it. Just as you have earned what ever skills you excel at. I would consider myself intelligent, I have read and studied and trained my brain to think in a certain way. While others where doing other things I was training (essentially) that is why I got to that point. But that doesn't mean that I am omnipetent.(as you can see I am a terrible speller for one thing). I am great at almost every subject, except math. I cannot do math for the life of me. Or business. I also am not good at art (I have the brain for it I think I just haven't dedicated the years it takes to develop the skill) I cannot run for the life of me either, nor am I particularly good at sports. So the problem would then be not that he is better then you because he is smart or that you are stupid but rather you have merely focused your time on other attributes (their is nothing wrong with that). If you really want to feel smarter then talk to him. If he really is as intelligent as you implie then listen to him and learn from him. His knowledge will become your knowledge and by extention you will gain from his experience. It will also make him love you (more) because you will be taking an interest in his interest. There is nothing to be concerned about. There is always some one who is better at something then we are, so the only thing to worry about is stagnation of thought and of our selves. Hope that helps.1
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Most Helpful Girl
Don't compare yourself to him. He is dating you for a reason. And everyone knows more than another person on different topics1