I think this happens fairly often. It stings a little at first, but knowledge is everything. They think they got you nailed, but there are times when you cam play around with the situation and rebuild your confidence and even work on some relationship skills.
Future Lessons learned from the past that was not a blast here, Dear: Don't wear your heart on your sleeve in case they may leave. Feel them out more before you may find out what their motive in mind is. Many of today's toms may be doing this as just another Addition to the Other things at the top of their list such as growing cold duck feet in running back into their murky water as in Realizing there may be A... Commitment. Good luck. xx
The reason why people use us to boost their self esteem is just so they can feel better about things or they use us as a replacement to they either go back with their ex or find another partner to be in a relationship with.
It's happened to me a few times. I would get to know a girl, we would flirt, and then, suddenly, she'd blindside me with the information that she had a boyfriend who she'd been dating for two years. What I did about it was pull away from them and re-evaluate my interactions with girls. I realized that I was allowing myself to get used and that it was killing my desire to ever be close to girls.
So I stopped messing with girls for a while and got myself in the best shape of my life and improved my self-confidence and esteem. Now, girls don't play with me, they want to date me. It took a lot of work on my part to realize that I was too eager to compliment girls and give them things without getting anything back.
Show interest in getting closer, but keep romantic feelings ambiguous. Flirt, but don't declare, be nice, but draw your lines and don't make him into your priority. Hang out, don't push anything. Be normal and let him come to you.
When you're aggressive with guys, this usually happens and the guy that was "playing" you may as well have been interested at first, but you killed it with desperation.
I wish i knew. This one guy I liked used me to make his ex girlfriend jealous. We were acquaintances and she knew I liked him. They started to date because she asked him out. I guess she must have told him I liked him because he knew. He didn't like me but he wanted to make her feel jealous so he pretended to. That hurt worse than when I found out they were dating.