The people involved simply aren't compatible. Just as with friends, we are constantly searching for that right fit, people we can tolerate, that love us, that can take care of us and protect us. If someone is unable or unwilling to do the task, its not meant to be.
People have relationships for the wrong reasons, e. g hoping that person will make them happy, give them something that they can't do themselves. I see a lot people hoping love will make them happy, love does not make you happy, any-more than having than driving a nice car. Lets put this you think that driving a fancy limo, will only you happy for the first 6-12months, then after than you get bored of it, and look for something better, and you will hope find that happy feeling again.
People come out with wrong expectations of relationships. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend will not make you happy. You should be happy single first, and not need anyone.
Love is about sharing and doing things do together, than do it alone.
I quote Bruce Lee here: "Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable."
The problem is that when habits come to play a lot of people stop nurturing their relationship and thus it falls apart. The initial fire alone can't keep up a relationship in the long run.
Blaming someone constantly and without reason is emotional abuse, and often the person being blamed starts to believe they are in the wrong, making them feel guilty and upset for not thinking themselves ''good enough.''
It is important (and emotionally mature) to take responsibility for our own actions, and to treat the person you are in a relationship with respectfully.
Time and willingness to compromise. I would say lots of relationships nowadays are not built on a strong foundation, there could be too much doubts (due to social media), and yes, expectations. Sometimes there are some things in which we doubt and are unwilling to question, and even when we question, we continue to doubt etc. Fast paced society leads to most relationships not working out. It requires lots of time and efforts, as well as understanding what your SO needs.
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