I've been dating this girl for a tad less than a month now and it's easily the best relationship I have been in. We're both really into each other, have a ton in common, and laugh all the time. But It's occurred to me that this is the first time I've actually felt a so-to-speak "deeper affection" towards another girl I've dated and so I now pose the question, "when do you tell your girlfriend you love her? And for that matter, how?" The last thing I want to do is scare her off or make her feel awkward by saying it too soon. She means the world to me, so any advice on what to do is very appreciated. :)
Most Helpful Girl
Not sure you really can put a timeline on when you feel or better yet you know you love someone else.
What I would say though, Love is when you choose to be with that one person exclusively. When you would choose to love them even if they wouldn't love you back (but they do!). When you can't or don't want to see yourself with anyone other than them approaching forever !! When your emotional feelings for them go way beyond butterfly's in your tummy, because you actually don't fear or mind settling down and committing to them for a long time.
I Love the way the Bible describes Love in it's poetic way in First Corinthians 13:4 - 8a
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres. 8a Love never fails.
(In a way this piece of poetry is kind of a litmus test of what true love is. Even if one does not agree with the Bible, it's poetry is beautiful.)1
Most Helpful Guy
Don't worry about love, in fact, you shouldn't even think about feeling it. It comes to you and you can't hold back. But that's down the road so
Instead, take a special moment to say something like
you know, I can really be myself when I'm with you
I can't help but feel we may have found something special
It'sactually a little bbut scary, to be this happy with someone
Now, things like she means the world to you soon nice, but she doesn't mean the world to you and life would go on without her, so if you could refrain from saying things that sound nice but aren't true, when you say really vulnerable yet simple things like those mentioned, they will mean a lot more than the words they contain
And try to look into her eyes when you say it. Not look her in the eyes, but look into her eyes.
Good luck, take it slow but don't be afraid to get hurt. That's the path to the most special feeling1