My boyfriend and have been dating for 10 months now.. He says he is not ready for marriage right now because... He wants to accomplish his goals in life... He said he does not see himself marrying me.. Because of the above.. Is this good or bad.. Im confused.. Would he be looking for someone else? .. He said how girls think he is a player.. Why care about what they think when he is with me.. We talk about our kids names.. Pets.. Etc.. So why do all this.. And spend time with me if he says im not his marrying type.. Is it because he is not ready for marriage? ..
Guys, what does it mean when ur boyfriend says we are dating but not ready for marriage?
What Guys Said 19
Girls and guys are a bit different in this.
Guys will feel ready for marriage when they
*-have their degree
*- have found a stable job, earning enough money
*-have gatherred some savings (enough to pay a rent deposit, furniture and to face a possible lay off in the company)
Girls will feel ready for marriage when they want a baby and a little home.
(I met my wife in 1967, we married in 1971, got a child in 1977)6
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First of all: you'very been dating for 10 months and you're ALREADY talking about marrige? Slow down a bit. Second: it's his choice whether you understand or not. I don't mean to sound harsh here, but I'm just being bluntly honest. I went through a similar situation, but I'm younger so marriage wasn't in the problem. I have huge plans for a military career, and the military life doesn't exactly make room for relationships. This and some other problems cause me to break up with my ex who I dated for 2 years. You may love eachother, but when a relationship gets in the way of someone's goals in life, it causes serious problems.3
Think he means it too early in the relationship to think about marriage and he does not feel like he is financially established.1
It means that he feels by the time he will be ready in life, who knows if your relationship with him will even make it that far
Plus if he directly said he does not see himself marrying you, then it means he's already made the choice to move on at some point in time with another girl
But of course it could all change in the future1
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He probably loves you but if he says he doesn't see himself marrying you and you want to get married then he doesn't want you in the long wrong. thats a big red flag. dnt be to quick into marrying give him time. but if he's sure he doesn't want to marry but you do then thats a no no.0
If he says you are not his marrying type, BELIEVE HIM. If you want to be married, then you are wasting time with him. Stop seeing him so you can meet a guy who thinks you are his marrying type.1
Why spend time with you? Most likely because your the only woman in his life... at the moment. Try not to get emotionally involved any further or find someone else if he already doesn't see a future with you and wants to brag about how others think he's a player.0
Oh yeah, he is not ready. Just, it's not because of the reason he told you. He doesn't want to marry YOU specifically.0
all the girls he's with think he's a player? uhhh yeah... maybe he's not religious... maybe he's got his head on straight and realizes that its more of a friendship thing rather than ownership thing... or maybe he's a player...0
Guys mean exactly what they say. He just needs more time to figure things out. Guys also see marriage differently you know :/ Also ten months aren't enough either I have to say.0
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