So would it really help the relationship when i have a girlfriend to communicate with her by asking her things about herself, how her day has been, and what she is doing a lot. As well as making decision with us both being equal partners. And being honest and tell her how i'm feeling and thinking.
And do i show application by doing things like hugging my girlfriend telling her how happy i am to be with her and spend time with her whenever i am with her. Would it also be good to give my hypothetical girlfriend small gifts all the time to show my application.
Does it sound like i have the right idea?
Most Helpful Girl
Sounds like you've got the basics covered ☺ It's only worth asking how her day is if you're actually interested, i've been with guys who asked a lot of questions but weren't interested in the answers and that just makes me think urgh as a girlfriend. Little surprises are nice, anything from flowers to little notes or even make her a favourite lunch for work as a surprise for when she wakes in the morning, give her a foot rub etc. Writing that is sounds like girlfriends are lots of works but they aren't... when you meet the right person everything will come natural and you will both be very happy I'm sure!0
Most Helpful Guy
No. Well, yes. It sounds like you got a good understanding of what you've heard, but you heard wrong.
What you're proposing is going to come out forced, and seem insincere. If she needs you to know how her day went, she should tell you (and you should listen). She has the same commitment to communication as you do. You can't make up for an inadequacies on her part by driving the conversation like an interrogation. Same with gifts. If you're giving them because you feel you should show her appreciation, then it's not sincere, but the result of essentially you emotionally blackmailing yourself. Meanwhile, you'll be conditioning her to receiving gifts all the time, "just because."
Whatever it is you decide to do, just be sincere about it. If it's a compliment or a gift (same thing), they need to be sparse, and well-placed.
P. S. It's "appreciation," not "application."0