The way I see it... when a physically attractive man randomly approaches a woman, she considers him 'confident' and probably gives him a chance (if she is single, that is). But if an average looking man does the same, he is labelled a 'creep'. This, in spite of both men being equally courteous, sophisticated and gentlemanly in their approach. How true is this?
it has WAY more to do with how he approaches me and how he carries himself than it has to do with what he looks like. i had a guy at a gas station once, not attractive but not necessarily unattractive either, who told me i was beautiful and that he hoped it didn't scare me, he just wanted to tell me. it was not creepy at all and i thanked him. however, if i am walking down the street in heels and a dress and any guy, regardless of what he looks like, says things like "damn girl" or "oh my god you're so f*cking hot" or anything like that it is creepy as hell especially if i am alone.
I think creep is more about mannerisms and approach more than looks. Something I've really noticed about the opposite sex is that they can smell desperate from across the room. They can smell thirsty af across the room. I'm not saying this is you I'm just speaking generally. If you (again I'm using you generally not specifically the asker) treat her as an individual and not have any expectations outside of being friendly I've noticed she will be more likely to chat with you then and in the future. That's a start too.
Looks don't necessarily get to me. No, i am not saying that is always the truth, yes i will admit am very, very guilty of labeling people because of their looks. But mannerisms matter to me as well. For example, if this guy is just following you around and just skulking behind you like some weird shadow that never even bothers to talk to you, after a while it gets scary. (Especially since i am a fairly paranoid person, lol.) Another thing that i find important is how you talk, i mean there are just those people who seem weird after you talk to them a bit, you know what i mean? But yes, i know your words are usually true, personally i think anybody could change that in themselves if they put there mind to it. And we would all be better off if we just learned to not care about looks, but i don't see that happening anytime soon, especially knowing myself and my friends xD