Right now, I'm interested in a 21 year old Hispanic woman who's very mature and hard working lady that works 2 jobs and goes to college. The thing is, she has a toddler son. Now I have absolutely nothing against children but I'm a 20 year old guy who only works 19 hours per week at the moment while going to college trying to pay off my own tuition while helping my parents out financially and I don't know if I'm ready for that amount of commitment and responsibility. I don't want her toddler to think I'll be taking mommy away from him.
Most Helpful Girl
I think that you can do what you want, but you have to think about the level of commitment that you will be putting in.
In your question you said that you would be taking "mommy" away... it's not that simple... you would be adding yourself to a family... your not taking "mommy" away your adding yourself in as "daddy" essentially...
At 20 Years old you should have a woman by your side, and you should be able to go out to the movies, park, or county fair... but you have to realize that there are other factors at play you'll both be working tons of hours, in school, assisting family financially, and caring for a kid... there's no way you'll be able to live a normal life. If she wasn't a single mom (just a scenario..) you'd have a bit more time to spend with her; I know this because I was doing the same thing... I worked 40 hours through out college and helping my family financially... My boyfriend was doing the same.. when the time came for free time with friends or for us alone... it was impossible to pick up where we left off or describe what happened the day before...
I say do what you think is right, but your young see the world before you commit.0
Most Helpful Guy
You have your pick of any woman you want, and want one with another guy's cuntspawn?
Honestly, I'd worry about building my own life and career instead of trying to play daddy to a kid you don't actually want (you said yourself you aren't ready for this) just to get at his mother.0