In my experience, guys seem to like the idea but when a girl makes the first move she's often written off as too bold or desperate. What's the real answer here gentlemen?
Guess I'll ask him and see what happens. He was sharing personal details today, so he must at least be interested in hanging out, right?
I asked him out! He said yes!! He was a little busy so I gave him my number and told him to reach out when he had time so we could figure something out. Haven't heard from him about getting together. What the hell? Actual rejection I can deal with, but telling me yes and then doing nothing...
guys like it when hot girls ask them out. When they are thinking about being asked out by a girl, they are imagining it happening with a girl that makes them too nervous to approach themselves. If a girl is merely 'cute' or even not attractive, then her 'boldness' could be construed as desperation, as i suspect it is assumed that if any guy wants her they wouldn't be too nervous to approach.
That's my guess, anyway. Of course, I don't know the situation of the guys in question, and I myself would be entirely open to a girl who approached me.
If a guy turns down a girl that asks him out, it is because he is not interested. I don't know anyone who sees it as a sign of desperation except for girls who seem content to give themselves a reason to not take action, or girls who are happy to prevent other girls from snatching up the guys they like.
Guys have feelings believe it or not. We like it when someone we like lets us know they are interested. It is almost like we enjoy feeling attractive and desired. It's amazing that with our vastly similar brains that men and women could have so much in common.
I can't stress this enough, yes ask him out, when a girl does it, it does not seem desperate, i dont know why ya get this idea, how many times i got to say it, its flattering and that guy most likely likes you to share personal info, it's a trust thing.
I wouldn't see it as bold or desperate just that she's interested. A lot of shy, awkward guys like myself would even prefer a girl to ask, it's a lot less pressure on us and then we know she's actually interested.
Yes, it shows that you have balls and guys like that
Not every person you are interested in is interested in YOU.
It's easy being the one approached -- you already know the person asking you likes you. So welcome to the world of approaching -- rejection upon rejection.
As for those being their reasons: those are simply the words that came out of their mouths. Kind of like when a woman says "he wasn't confident enough, so I turned him down." You just didn't bring the right vibe to the interaction, and/or he just doesn't like you.
"too bold or desperate. "
See I keep hearing people say this is what they'll be called yet I see no guys saying that about a girl that approaches them. Who is actually saying this? I feel like it's just an excuse a lot of women are making up out of thin air to not have to do it because I never ever ever hear any guy actually say this about a girl that approaches.