I would like female opinions on this. Say you really want to hang out with a guy or spend some time with him.. Would you expect him to take the initiative to come to you or would you state what you wanted and take the initiative? Or would you ask him to come to you if you were free?
I'd ask him to come to me
I'd just expect him to come to me
I'd totally go to him
And you are? I'm a GirlGuys can not vote on this poll
I'd prefer it if I go to him and he shows he is ok with being receptive rather than trying to control eveeything... I find it hot when guys don't feel the need to be " macho". More importantly asking a guy out is like my litmus test. If he plays games or skirts around it or tries to out the ball in his court instead of just responding then I'm out. Good riddance. I'd rather fimd that out in the beginning the waste time.
Course if he gets to me first and I'm interested I'm not going to be like" no I want to ask you instead " ) it's just a preference it's not immutable. :-)
I typically go about it like this: if I feel I have the opportunity to let him try to approach me, I will. If I feel we don't see each other enough/feel like he won't take initiate, I will. However, if it becomes a trend where he never initiates anything (dates, conversation, etc) then I will admittedly get a bit bored. I hate being the sole pursuer in a relationship; both parties have to do the work.
I'd try to be patient for him to make the first move (because even though men say they like a girl with some spunk, they really like being the initiator -makes them feel more manly I guess...), but if it doesn't go that way I ask them to come to me. I mean why not? Or maybe even go to him. Depends on how I think it would go - he might be too frightened to come to my place - for whatever reason.
I would ask a guy if he'd like to meet somewhere to hang out, and we both go there. If he doesn't have a vehicle, I'll pick him up. If he initiated and asked to go somewhere, I don't mind meeting up at the place he picked either.
If I had a choice to hang out at a house, I'd rather go to his place. Unless this is my boyfriend (not just casual dating), then he can know where I live.
It depends on what we're doing and how well I know the guy.
Typically, I'd state that I wanted to meet somewhere (if we were going to eat). That way, we're in public, I have my own mode if transportation if for some reason I have to leave earlier than expected, and there's always the option to go to either place if it suits us.
If it was one of my friends, I'd be fine with either place, depending on what it was we were planning on doing.
Well, I wouldn't expect it but if it was like our first time hanging out then I'd like him to come to me. Gonna be totally honest here and say that I probably wouldn't ask. I'm hella shy and rejection is not fun lol.
I'm not going to just wait around for him to ask me out or make a move. If I really like a guy, I can work up the courage to go to him myself. It's not fair to just expect the guy to make the first move. If he's really that important to me, I'll take the initiative.
The guy making that move will show us he's interested. Some girls feel like if we have to make that move than we feel desperate/silly and so then we won't. Depends on how long you've been dating or seeing each other.
I've gone to a guy before that showed all the signs of being interested but when I asked him to hang out in an email. He basically ignored that part and said that he would see me and the place we always see each other...
I would try to give him an opportunity to go ahead and ask me. If he still hasn't tried after being given enough opportunities, I would ask him... So long as I was under the impression that he may be interested in me as well, and just too shy/scared to ask. However, if he was generally aloof to me, I would not ask even if I REALLY wanted to.