Hi I know there are similar threads but I didn't see one on my particular situation. So I was really shy when I was younger, and got bullied through elementary and high school, so I didn't really get asked out much. I've been told I'm pretty and I'm working on losing weight... slightly overweight right now. Taking to counselor about confidence and it's helping... only issue now is my inexperience. College was great- still didn't date anyone but I made loads of friends and basically made up for high school. First boyfriend when I was 22, only 2 months. been on dates since and had the chance to have sex but didn't because it was our 2nd date and barely knew him. Farthest is 2nd base. I never thought it was obvious I'm a virgin. I laugh and make sex jokes just like my friends, and I've never said anything either way. But a few weeks ago we were all drinking and hanging out and out of the blue this one guy asked me in front of everyone if I'm still a virgin. I said no but I was pretty embarrassed... Not that there's anything wrong with it, but that I thought I fit in and I'm pretty sure he realized later I was lying and hurt my feelings since I was pretty quiet after that. So my questions are- Is it really obvious that someone is a virgin? Even if the only thing separating them from friends is lack of sexual experience? I've been told people are surprised by my knowledge of sex acts and jokes. Never been embarrassed till now but will a guy think I'm a freak? The guy who asked me made it seem weird, and bad... I know it's not but will guys? Don't want to make a big deal about it, I know I'm ready and when I meet a guy I care about it'll be great. But after this question it makes me think it will be harder to get there because I don't want to be labeled as a prude or damaged since I'm so old... Neither are true! Thanks for listening!
Most Helpful Guy
well i'm very shocked0
Most Helpful Girl
Honestly, if he cares *that* much about you being a virgin, he doesn't really care about you.0