Alright so I'm only 20 but I am not a big fan of the whole dating thing. Like I dont want to date just to have fun like a lot of people at this age do. I want nothing to do with FWB's or hook ups. I want to find someone to settle down with. I look forward to getting married and having kids and stuff. Is this super weird since I'm only 20? I feel like with so many of my friends these things are no where on their radar. Is not wanting to date for the heck of it and wanting to settle down at 20 crazy? Also I've only ever had one boyfriend and am currently single so I've never had the whole dating thing either. So am I crazy?
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Most Helpful Guy
Not crazy, but you are asking for a divorce.
The majority of marriages when the woman is under 21 end in divorce. The reason is because women do not finish forming their adult self until some point over 23, and it is usually closer to 25. You will be a different person when you are 30 than who you are now. That different person may not like who you choose now as a husband.
Wait until you are 27 before getting married and have kids. You may struggle for the next 7 years, but you will be thankful during the following 60.2
Most Helpful Girl
22. With 2 kids and plans for marriage in the next few years.
Words of wisdom, establish or get started on a career first because it's so much easier without kids in tow, there's no daycare or late nights so just take that time to get your head down and concentrate without distractions.
I think it would wise to date a little more, just to give you a greater understanding of what you are looking for in a relationship and whether you could adjust to settling down so early. It's a big commitment and not something to be taken lightly, trust me on that. If you wanna travel, do it now and if you do decide to have children young, say good bye to your independence and don't have any regrets about what you could have done when you didn't have those attachments.
Don't get me wrong, having kids and being in a stable relationship is fantastic but 1). It's not for everyone and I have seen many people struggle and long for their old lifestyle back and 2). I would be kidding myself if sometimes I didn't think my life would be easier without kids, it's hard, really hard.
Don't just settle for someone for the sake of wanting to have a family. If the right person doesn't come along, don't rush it, be patient, good things come to those who wait. You do not wanna make those kind of massive commitments with someone who isn't gonna be in it for the long haul too. Financial security and a supportive partner are essential to making your plans work. Hope that is hopeful and insightful!1