Ok, so there was a girl that i chatted up at a bar she worked there, when i finally asked her out she was mean and said "no fucking way" and left. Fast forward a few weeks, I went back to the same bar with some freinds and she was there again. She spoke with us and I don't know we got into a conversation about something we both were interested in and all of a sudden she was taking to me, kept on initiating the conversation. As we were about to leave, she came up to me and told me "hey, i know you wanted to get my number last time" and I acted cold and oblivious and said "uh, yeah" , she said in a nervous tone "well, I wanted to see if we can hang out some time and reconsider that date" and I looked at her and said "no fucking way" she looked shocked and humiliated and said "I see" she still gave me a piece of paper with her number on it and said "I know I was a bitch last time and I'm sorry, I hope you reconsider". then she walked away with her head down. Is it bad that I actually felt good about being a jerk to her. Guys has this ever happened to you and you felt like kinda empowered about it? Girls, have you ever regretted rejecting a guy and started to like him only to realize that he no longer likes you and rejects you? I am asking this because as a man, this rarely happens to us. I remember another time I did this and also felt good watching the girl walk away with her head down. Could it be that rejecting a woman that rejected me gives me like this sense of empowerment? I would like opinions on this.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't blame you for rejecting her!
About her being interested, when you asked her out originally, did you sense she was a complete b*tch? Just curious. Though I'm not going to agree with her or how she treated you, she may have been having a really crappy day, and who knows what other customers she had dealt with already? The reason I make this comment, is for her to give you her number anyways and said she was sorry, even after you gave her back her own game, I suspect she probably isn't normally a bitch. My guess is she had a day from hell, and from what I've heard, some women really get a lot of hell working at the bars, especially when they are attractive. (I know you were nice... just sometimes when you've reached the end of your rope...)
Honestly, I wouldn't call her. I would keep things on a tight leash and have it be a situation in which you get to know her if you go to that bar.
As for myself, I have rejected plenty of guys. I have never been rude about it, even if the guy was a douche in his approach. I see it as, no matter the sex, it takes a lot of guts to ask someone out, so I appreciate the offer, even if I'm not interested. The last thing I want to do is crush someone's spirit, just for trying. Thanks for the flattery!0
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Most Helpful Guy
Lol what you did was so fucking awesome I wish I was in your shoes to feel it because imagining it won't cut it haha and I sorta rejected a girl who turned me down for her ex "that dumped her 2-3 times" and grew a big crush on me again a year later and I sorta rejected her by flirting with her two best friends when she was around one ended up liking me but I went to college later that year and cut all contact it felt good but probably not as how you felt3