Me: 22 year old Chinese Canadian University student
Her: 21 year old Chinese Canadian University student
(We go to the same university)
We met each other since September 18th in class. She dropped that class.
However, we have been texting.
On Monday September 28th, I accidentally bumped into her on campus. We chatted for a few minutes and before we said goodbye, I asked her if she would like to go on a date with me. She was surprised and exclaimed, "Oh my God". She told me that no guy have ever asked her out before. She then told me that she and her friends were considering to participate in some sort of competition. They have not decided yet and that she will "think about it and will get back to me"
I still text her occassionally. By reading her text, I do not think that she is uncomfortable around me or that she is avoiding me.
Did I get rejected politely? Or that she is really thinking about it?
How should I follow up? When should I re-ask?
- You got rejectedVote A
- You still have a chance as she is thinking about itVote B
- She means yes, but she is waiting you to give her another chanceVote C
Most Helpful Guy
Assume the worst and hope for the best.
A relationship works both ways. You already took a step forward. If she's expecting you to take another step without her moving, then she's not someone worth dating in the first place.
She's either unsure, didn't want to let you down, or isn't worth dating.
Just assume she rejected you until she convinces you otherwise.1