I keep hearing that unless a man is good looking he needs to play the 'numbers game' to get a woman to date. He needs to keep asking women out, until the 10th, 50th or 100th woman eventually says that elusive 'yes' to go out with him.
What if a man does not want to play this idiotic numbers game? What if he just longs for a 'normal' life, with a woman whom he loves, and he loves him back? Is there no way to 'bypass' this numbers game, if he isn't blessed with extreme good looks (although he is a 6 or 7 out of 10 in terms of looks)?
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Stop "fighting" the uncomfortable and emotional distressing reality that "nothing in life is free." The women (or "woman") that a man actually wants are not just going to also want him simply because he's a "nice guy." That's an early childhood belief that's appealing to young children who want to feel good and avoid feeling bad. It's much easier for a child to want to accept and believe that "the world and people are altruistic, generous, loving, caring, kind, etc.," and very painful and distressing for a child to consider that "the world and people are self-interested, self-centered, opportunistic, and consider what other people want only to the extent that it will help them get what they want."
If you don't have looks, then you're not getting a girl hot and bothered and making her feel good internally emotionally and physically. If you don't have money and power, then you're not giving the girl the pleasure of narcissistic identification and making her feel good internally emotionally and "socially" (i. e., in relation to other women, in a competitive and self-gratifying way; "look at how rich my husband is; look at all the nice places I travel to; look at all the nice stuff I have; look at how much I'm enjoying my life; look at how much he takes care of me" ... "look at how special and valuable and worth it I am as a woman").
So, what do you really have to "offer" the woman who will make you feel good both physically and emotionally, and socially (i. e., in relation to other men, in a competitive and self-gratifying way; "look at how hot the girl on my arm is" ... "look at how special and valuable and worth it I am as a man"). Granted, that last part is not as important to men, but you better be aware of how important it is to women.
If a man has a lot of value to offer, women will see it, and they'll flock to make offers to him (because they recognize what he has, and they want it, and they know other women will try to monopolize him and lock-up that value to themselves unless she seizes the opportunity while it's still available).
For men without that value to offer, if he doesn't mind being "single" or "settling for less," then his best shot at finding a female he's happy with will be by "playing the numbers." It's frustrating, isn't it? Whether that or working hard in school, at work, or at the gym is "more" frustrating... that's a choice each guy has to make... depending on what they want out of life.
But nothing in life is free.1
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