It seems that if a guy is lonely and complains about his situation, he's told he's entitled, secretly a docuhebag, pathetic, etc. but when a woman complains about her loneliness she's told how she'll find someone, how she's perfect, how it's men's fault, etc. even if she's, I dunno, a morbidly obese sociopath with hallucinations. Why is that?
Most Helpful Girl
I think men are entitled to be lonely! You guys have emotions, let them fly free :)
If any guys reading this are lonely right now you should all know you're great, we all get lonely sometimes, things will get better and you are perfectly allowed to feel **** about being on your own. What works for girls also works for guys by the way, get yourself a big tub of ice cream and a film, and then vow to take up a class or something where you'll meet new people.
Anyone who tells you to man up or anything nasty that devalues your feelings can go stand on lego barefoot.1
Most Helpful Guy
There's two things going on here I think...
1) The guy being alone and lonely isn't the issue that people dislike or judge... it's him complaining or pouting about it. Nobody likes complainers or people who feel sorry for themselves.
2) Women have stronger support system then men. You gals grow up gossiping and sharing feelings and connecting. It's what you do.. maybe it's hormonal since you lack high levels of testosterone. Because with us guys it's the opposite... we prefer fighting and competing and challenging each other.
As men we support each other by teasing and poking and challenging. Perhaps this is unhealthy, I have no idea.
3) There's an unspoken understanding about men and women in the world of dating... it's the man's job to take all the risks of rejection and therefore it's his "job" to approach women and ask them out, and to lead the interaction. It's the man's "job" to take action, sorta speak. While it's the woman's "job" to be approachable and pretty and tempting, like a flower. Which feels more "passive" I guess.
And so when a guy is single it can easily be assumed that he's simply not getting off his ass and talking to enough women. And when a woman's single it can be assumed that she simply doesn't measure up enough for men to approach her.
Of course both of these assumptions are likely inaccurate and false... I'm just telling you what I think is going on.
Does that make sense or am I way off?
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