I can never find anyone who wants anything more than sex. It seems everyone my age is in a relationship but me. I'm actually a pretty attractive person, I'm funny, fairly intelligent, laid back, independent, not clingy, etc. I feel like these are all good qualities yet I seem to be the only one who can't find a decent guy to date.
What am I doing wrong? Where can I meet these guys? Am I supposed to act a certain way or do something specific?
Most Helpful Guy
Really? I am actually getting worried that it's the girls who don't want anything serious. I'm a pretty sincere and serious guy and it makes me anxious to hear about how non-seriously it seems like many women treat relationships at least in the United States. From what I hear, it seems like men are becoming the ones to want relationships.
Anyhow, I can't really tell you "how to meet guys" because this is something I'm struggling with myself and have no idea how to do (how to meet girls), but what I WILL say is STAY AWAY from online dating, clubs, bars, and pubs if you want anything serious.
Online dating is an "everyone loses" situation as guys lose a lot of "value" there with all the competition and girls, while they receive a lot of messages, most of the messages they do receive are guys just wanting sex. And of course, bars and clubs are notorious for generating mere hookups, flings, etc.
Probably the best way, if I were to speculate, to meet people is going to be through friends, work, or shared hobbies, which I know is probably not helpful as you've heard that many times, I'd imagine, but I think that's where you have the most potential of finding something serious as many of those guys will already be somewhat acquainted and therefore at least a little bit emotionally connected with you.1
Most Helpful Girl
In Nicholas Sparks novels and teenage drama tv shows2