Maybe this isn't fair being I'm in high school, but why do girls hate intellectuals? It's almost like they love being treated like garbage by some stupid jock and love breaking the hearts of guys who are actually going to college X-X (sorry if this seems like I'm stereotyping or ranting but this is my experience on multiple occassions)
No, I am not arrogant. I'm confident, charismatic, and have a lot of different traits. Sorry if it seems like I oversimplified the problem but part of the purpose of this question was to be a sort of social media experiment to see how people would respond to this. Furthermore, I am very happy to see how much debate has occurred because of this question. Please continue, it's very interesting!
This is not to say this hasn't all happened to me.
I also associate the work "jock" with "jerk" because they have been synonymous in my opinion, so let me eliminate the extremes that have people getting their underwear in a twist. No *all* jocks are selfish jerks that don't care where they end up and are dirt-dumb. Not all intellectuals are charismatic leaders that are kind, friendly, and nice to all. But speaking generally, what do you think?
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In high school, I don't think intellectual is appreciated that much, because it's probably not understood by most your age. A lot of people just see high school as a time to have fun and not be so serious about futures until applying for college. You'll be appreciated more after high school and the appreciation will skyrocket towards the end of college/after college years.
Still, in most settings, I actually think intellectuals need to make sure to balance their intellectual qualities with other warmer qualities like friendliness, sensitivity, good sense of humor, good conversationalist, sweetness, good people person,, etc. Alone it honestly just comes across as intimidating and often seems to involve some social awkwardness, and for a high school girl especially, it doesn't really satisfy her needs or desires.
It's not your fault, you probably are a good person and your intellectual mind will change the world one day, but if you are facing a lot of rejection, either the girl isn't right for you, the girl isn't worth it and just plain sucks... she'll miss out on something special so it's good not to waste your time on her, or you've gotta look at something about yourself you can tweak a little without changing who you are. Girls and guys have to compromise a little for each other in order to attract. I would say girls have to be willing to put in extra in their appearance to attract..
Things definitely change a lot after high school though. Infatuations are put on the pedestal less often, and the bad boy craze transforms into the desire to just be with a good guy. Hang in there, high school is rough... surround yourself in atmospheres of good people (a club dedicated to volunteering or your interests), and maybe you'll find a gem who's got the right maturity for you from the start :)11
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