See, the thing is that I want a smart, gorgeous girl that shares similar interests in me. A girl that makes me a better person. A girl that likes to have fun, but also like to hangout and watch movies or stargaze. I want a girl with a beautiful smile and beautiful teeth. One with a beatiful heart.. A sweet girl.
I've only come across one of these girls in 20 years. I don't want to date someone just to date them. I want all of this in them.
Is it truly bad that I know what I want in a girl? It can't be bad that I'm too specific, right? I mean I know that most girls don't fit ALL of the criteria, but I know that there are girls out there like this because I called one mine once before. I know I'll be single for a while until this girl comes along because I'm sure that they are far and few between.
No not at all! Why would it be "too picky" if you already know what you want, its quite attractive, and you'll have many to choose from :) You have to be these days, and to find the right one that fits all your criteria is very possible! Thats sexy and will make them work that much harder for you!
The better looking you are the pickier you will be, regardless of sex. Subconsciously, you will seek out a mate "worthy" of your genes and with genes equal as good, if not better. This may sound odd and pretentious, but its true.
I don't think there's anything wrong with knowing what you want in a girl and sticking with your preferences.
The only thing I will caution you against however is being TOO rigid in your preferences. I'm not saying that the girl you describe doesn't exist, I'm just saying that you want to be careful. You wouldn't want to be sticking ONLY to that one preference/type that you are attracted to when there could be plenty of other perfectly GREAT girls right under your nose that you may be overlooking simply because they don't fit some criteria that marks on your box.
I would say there's nothing wrong with dating a few girls here and there that you find good conversation and "chemistry" with now and then. Get some experience dating and seeing what other types of girls you could be interested in. As long as they are friendly and you have things in common with them, why not try to get to know them as well?
Again, I'm not saying that you forget your preferences (they are good), I'm just saying don't overlook other girls who you could be perfectly compatible with simply because you're looking for this perfect girl that you have conjured up in your head lol. I don't know how old you are, but if you're in your 20's you honestly have a lot of time to find that "special someone" in the future. I would focus on having experiences with girls that you have things in common with and like to hang around. Give them a chance. You may find that you like some other girls for different reasons as well! :)
No, it's good that you're picky. Not being picky and settling for someone who isn't your ideal partner will likely lead to a failed relationship, even if things are good for a while. It's good that you know what you want and even better that you are willing to wait for it.
However... if you find yourself falling deeply in love with someone who maybe doesn't fit all of your criteria, don't throw away the possibility that they might be what you need. Maybe you meet someone who doesn't have the perfect smile, but who makes you smile perfectly. If she makes you a better person and your heart is saying yes, you might consider taking your relationship further.
I guess what I'm saying is... don't stop being picky, but don't completely disregard a woman who might be perfect for you just because there are one or two things that aren't what you envisioned your perfect woman to have.
Sounds to me like you were in love with that girl, and you still love her which is why no other girl seems to compare. You will realise you've fallen in love with the next girl when suddenly, they meet every criteria. Really though, it's because when you've found a person you really like, you see them through rose-coloured glasses. Your mind can bend things to believe whatever it wants to believe tbh.
It depends. Would you rather be single forever than date a girl who doesn't measure up to your standards?
I have my wish list. And then I have my non-negotiables. I may prefer a guy who is taller than me, makes a lot of money, is intelligent, etc. But I can accept someone who isn't. Everything in my wish list.
I was told pick 3 non-negotiables. 3 things that can be as specific as you like. If a guy violates 1, he is gone.
Is it a problem that I am extremely picky when it comes to a girlfriend? Not in my opinion. Though I may be biased as I have criteria for a partner others may considered picky ie d*ck size, height, and being absolutely handsome.
It definitely isn't a problem. It just means you don't wanna play around and are looking for something serious, someone you could imagine yourself marrying one day. I think it's actually a good thing. But don't be too selective just be natural and you'll meet someone who will perfect get along with you.
There' absolutely nothing wrong in that. Everyone has different things they want in their S. O. It's normal. As you grow older, your checklist starts to shrink. All I can say is that when you meet her/get to know her, you'll know she's the one.
Its okay to be picky so at least you know what to want for a girl and you just want the best for you. But on the other hand, if you really love a girl you don't need those criteria of yours and opposite attracts. :)