So there's a girl that I really like. We've hung out and have talked for a bit. We're not dating because she's not interested in a relationship for now. I really like her and I don't want to give up on her. How I determine if it's really because I really like her or if it's an obsession (which is obviously unhealthy)?
Most Helpful Girl
A certain amount of 'obsession' is normal if you are infatuated. A researcher called Helen Fisher talks a bit about this topic. The brain of someone who is in love is very similar to someone addicted to cocaine apparently. People get excited when they think about someone they like which makes them think about them even more.
How do you know if its gone too far? Well... Is it destructive? Is it consuming your life? Do you think it's gone too far?
Is it destructive to your relationship with her? Are you doing what's best for her or are you only thinking about yourself?
If you love her you will want what is best for her0
Most Helpful Guy
Do you tail her around town? Hang around her house at night? Send her unwanted text messages? No? Then it's not an obsession. And you should date someone else.0