So there's a girl that I really like. We've hung out and have talked for a bit. We're not dating because she's not interested in a relationship for now. I really like her and I don't want to give up on her. How I determine if it's really because I really like her or if it's an obsession (which is obviously unhealthy)?
Okay so based on what everyone said, it doesn't seem like I'm obsessed. I'm able to function my daily life lol and I'm not doing anything irrational like stalking her. But I do think about her a lot. I'm just not interested in dating other girls right now however. I've been at social events where there's a lot of attractive women but just haven't had any interest. I don't know if that means I'm obsessed.
A certain amount of 'obsession' is normal if you are infatuated. A researcher called Helen Fisher talks a bit about this topic. The brain of someone who is in love is very similar to someone addicted to cocaine apparently. People get excited when they think about someone they like which makes them think about them even more. How do you know if its gone too far? Well... Is it destructive? Is it consuming your life? Do you think it's gone too far? Is it destructive to your relationship with her? Are you doing what's best for her or are you only thinking about yourself?
If you love her you will want what is best for her
Are you able to think about other things? Do other things? are you able to perform your work or school duties? Are you able to date other girls? if you answered no to any or all, there may be a problem.