Hi, and thanks for taking time to look at my post. This isn't really a question but more reaching out for opinions.
Back in January I started playing minecraft, ladida, made some friends over the game etc (lets skip the boring part that lasts 5 months to June.) I was eventually invited to play on a small server with a few new people I hadn't gamed with before. I quickly became really good friends with this guy and regularly played on the server with him, often flirting or joking around etc. Our mutual friend pointed out she thought we liked eachother and ended up with him asking me out about 3 weeks after meeting. I declined with the reason that i didn't know him well enough and wanted to actually be able to talk (via teamspeak or skype) before anything happened. However, I have social and phone anxiety, so talking to people isn't exactly my forte. Skip to October, and we have pretty much started having this relationship online, just without talking because I am still super axious for no reason and he also isn't so keen on talking. Our online relationship is pretty much exactly how a normal relationship would be when not around eachother. He recently moved to university 3 hours away from where i am, which is 2 hours more than it had been before he went. I desperatly want to break the 'purely chat' relationship we have and bring it to talking or the real world, but my anxiety is preventing me from doing that and every time i think i have the courage to do it i end up backing out last minute.
So, to clear up, i am in an online relationship with this guy, we haven't used out voices to talk purely chat, we are just over a year age gap (im 17, he's 18), none of our parents know, and now there is an even longer distance between us than there was, yet i physically and emotionally can't bring myself to talk.
All i need is someone to just put an opinion on where they think this is going or if i should just abandon it full stop.
Thanks for taking the time to
Most Helpful Guy
Honestly I doubt very much anything serious will come out of it, especially since youve only spoken through text?
That being said, since you have so much anxiety and you are really unexperienced I can see this kinda being like practice for you, like learning to talk with guys etc.1
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I'm in a long distance relationship with my current boyfriend and have been for almost 11 months now. He's in Sweden and I'm in Canada. I won't lie to you, LDRs are really hard, but they CAN work and they DO (I've seen it). It just requires a ton of patience and keeping in constant contact (and I really mean constant). When you're far away from each other, even an hour without talking seems like a year.
Talking is really important (with voices and camera), so as soon as you can start, the better. I was really anxious too at first but I eased into it slowly and eventually talking to him became as natural as breathing. I should also note that I have extreme social anxiety, so if I can do it, you can too. What we did to get comfortable was make funny sounds to make each other laugh, then started describing random things in our rooms, then eventually we were having long-winded discussions about basically anything and everything. With cameras, it is more nerve-wracking, but it really helps to close off that distance, at least for a little while.
You guys can play games together on Skype, talk about your day or even just talk to them while you're doing homework or something. Hell, my boyfriend and I even sleep with our cameras on to simulate the feeling of being beside each other. You should also make plans to visit sometime because that will help bring it all to reality. If you need any more advice, feel free to send me a message and I'd be glad to help. Good luck! xx1