Hi! So I'm in college, and I was hoping to get into a fun, nice relationship with a cool guy that I can click with. I'm beautiful (as I am told on the daily by strangers not being conceited just trying to give you the best picture), into fashion and is a great dresser, and really easy to talk with. I've met a lot of guys, some who seem smitten and some who just come on really flirty or as really sweet guys. They get my #, and then they never text! Or we text for a little bit, and the convo fizzles out and they don't text me back. Or I text first to make the first move if the guy never texted me first but he eventually stops. In person, for first they seem super excited about me but then they seem to friendzone me or just be polite whenever we see each other. I do have guys that I know have a crush on me, but I'm not into them. The ones I'm into act as I've described! And these guys usually dated girls less attractive than them even though they could get a model.. which is interesting. I feel like guys just think I only have looks and fashion to offer, and don't give me the chance to show them my sweet, chill personality which I know they will like. I can also cook but these guys will never know cause they don't get close haha! Do guys think that attractive girls don't have much to offer in terms of personality and if so, how can I get over that flaw to connect better? Thanks if you're gonna try to help me with this! :)
Well, you sound perfect. Pretty, good dresser, engaging and a good cook to boot. Guys don't assume that a girl that is pretty only has that going for her. It may just be the opposite, they assume that you have all the game you want so they go on about their business.
Yeah, most guys think that beautiful women tend to be stuck up, have no light in their heads, and that will not like them because she's "out of their league". That's why the most attractive women tend to get little attention.
I actually think it's the opposite, the most attractive women tend to be super nice because they aren't full of themselves due to not many guys wanting them.
LOL I loved your post. The exact same thing happens to me. Im in college as well (US) and have your same description equivalent to a guy. I do not get it either, for some reason, the girls do not seem to give a chance. I know this may sound narcissistic but I am good looking to be modest, nice style, smart, fun etc etc yet girls go with guys that do not compare to me really. And it is not confidence nor anything, there is just something weird going on.
Question, have you ever thought that you might intimidate some of them? That is what I think of myself sometimes. I mean you do get the attraction of some guys (even if you do not like them), I do to, but sometimes from the girls I want to actually go out with they do not seem interested and they instead go out with guys who are a mess. So sometimes I think that they may look at me as too much compromise because I give the impression (clothes, organised, good looking, my shit in order, behaviour) of looking for something serious so they are kind of turn off by that.
I thought about that because sometimes girls like you (the ones that are worth it in my opinion) are the ones that guys (even myself) do not care to pursue. It is just to much work; girls with your description may seem uptight, hard to fool (in the case the guy only wants sex) etc. What is ironic is that that is not necessarily the case. What do you think?