Can you actually be Inlove with someone if after 2 weeks of dating them you have already cheated on them
This question is about my ex who I have stuck by for months even though she has put me through hell and just recently she started dating a guy who she barely knows and they think they're Inlove and happy but a couple of days ago she was at the same night club as me and she was hooking up with a complete random so it has confused me a lot with why she is sticking with this guy if already she has done the wrong with him
What people call 'love' is something subjective. Most will have different perspectives on the issue, and what love meas to them. I've never cheated so couldn't say for sure what sort of relationship cheating has with love. However, I'd think they're pretty independent. In some cases, the cheater probably could really be 'in love' with their partner, despite the huge betrayal and all. In love, of maybe just infatuated, loving getting all that attention and their ego stroked. Cheating would have more of an affect of the dynamics of the relationship. If the one who got cheated on can bare to continue being emotionally invested in someone who lost their trust, and showed they may not be taking the relationship and any monogamy tied to it quite so seriously.
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Love is an action and a state of being. In the moment of cheating you cease to care about the emotions of your partner and proceed to indulge in it. To me that doesn't sound like a loving action. So I say no you didn't love them. You can change and begin to love your partner again but you made your actions and have no choice but to accept the resulting consequences. When you stop caring for the things important to you you often damage and lose them. That's just life. Deal with it. But to address your situation specifically just because your ex cheated on her current guy doesn't mean she wants you back or that she's still in love with you. She's your ex now. Focus on yourself and stop filling your life's holes with her. Trust me I've been there. Even if she comes back it won't be because she suddenly realized she actually loved you she'll only be coming back because she couldn't find something else. You'll feel like garbage and she'll treat you like garbage. Just let it go move on and go focus on you.
NO NO NO! If they truly loved the person, they wouldn't have cheated. in my opinion because it causes so much damage to the person who was cheated on. You don't destroy people you love. The person who was cheated on could have some serious trust issues and other issues with relationships now that they have been cheated on. It literally destroys people and makes them insecure in relationships. Not cool!
nope, that is not love. And anyway, it is impossible to "love" someone after only 2 weeks of dating. It's probably not even exclusive by then. so maybe it isn't even cheating. I highly doubt that anyone will proclaim love and an exclusive relationship after so little time.
even IF they are in love, cheaters have an innate insecurity which they need to cover up with cheating. it boosts their ego apparently. If that is the case with her, good luck to the guy...
My first thought was this: after two weeks of what, exactly? Two weeks of dating does not necessarily constitute a relationship. People can date for months or even years without ever becoming exclusive. Maybe one person thought they were locked in as couple, and the other person truly just thought they were going out on dates with each other--enjoying each other's company but still free to see other people? Because in that event, it wouldn't really be cheating.
Perhaps they can, but I think what mostly happens (in long term/serious relationship at least) is that the cheater used to be in love with the person but aren't anymore and that's just a lie they tell themselves and the victim so they don't feel like the human garbage they are. Love is about respect, and if you cheat on a person. The cheater must not love them very much because they obviously don't respect them or their relationship with them enough to call it off before their eyes start to wander.
I think you've already answered your own question. What do you think? "Can you actually be in love with someone if after two weeks of dating them" *pause* love is a very big word and an even bigger affection. Use it wisely. It wouldn't be present in your relationship after two weeks. *continue* "If you have already cheated on them." If at fourteen days into the relationship with someone you claim to love you've already gone off with someone else on the side then I'd probably say no. No, you are not in love. No. Not even close.
You can but not in the way they deserve to be loved. Maybe the cheater feels infatuation at most but not the love of putting their partner's needs first instead of your own and not betraying them in one of the worst way possible.
2 weeks? They're probably not in love yet. But its possible they made a mistake... Maybe they do care about the person they cheated on, but they weren't super committed so they don't feel they were wrong...
No because its so easy for u to brake their trust and hurt them to the point of feeling used not worthy if u love some one u would do he best to protect them so that they don't have to feel hurt or broken
If you really loved them you would put them ahead of the other person and respect them enough to not do something that would hurt them. But there is always going to be somebody that you are attracted to even though you are already dating someone, it's what you do with that that matters. It's really about who you find yourself thinking ofwhen it's quiet or 3 am and you're about to fall asleep.
NOPE!!! ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Are you seriously asking that? Cheating doesn't have anything to do with love and love is not cheating. Cheating is not love. If you cheat on someone or have feelings for someone else while in a relationship, if course you don't love them! And it's like impossible to forgive cheating
I've seen this question sitting there for a while and just now clicked on it. I thought I had an idea of an answer before I read the text. Once I read the text my answer is completely different.
You were only dating for two weeks, so she is not your girlfriend (even if you think she is). If she is not your girlfriend then it's not possible for her to cheat. She can date anyone she wants.
When I read the update, it just reinforces this opinion. You might have "stuck with her" for months, but she is not your girlfriend and never has been.
I know this is harsh if you think you love her. But stop thinking of her as your girlfriend. She's not. She's out playing around and you are just another guy. Forget about her. She is not your girlfriend. She does not love you. She never has loved you. You are nothing to her. You don't have to break up with her, because you were never going together in the first place. Walk away and forget her. The sooner you do it, the sooner you'll get over it.
i think so yes. Unfortunately sometimes we don't treat the things we love properly though right? I mean a kid can love a toy and leave it somewhere. A person can love a piece of clothing and still wear it out.
now that doesn't mean that the cheating is ok, because they love the person. It just means they don't necessarily know how to treat the object of their love correctly
Let me first say that I am very much against cheating.
It's gonna sound controversial but I do think that people can still love that person when they cheat on them. When we say “That's not love” we actually mean that it is not how love is suppose to be. And I agree with that. But to be more accurate is that lust got in the way love.
Being “in love” is not the same thing as “love”. Love is much more a bond with somebody. Being “in love” is more about the butterflies, saying sweet things & lust. Sorry to say, they maybe in love but don't think too much of it. And it's not love yet. It's much too early for that.
As a tip I say that you should try to put it behind you. Often when one person sends another through hell it means that one person has invested a whole lot more than the other. Not only your hart but also your ego as been hurt. That makes it hurt extra. It can also lead to obsessive thoughts. You will try to understand what and why she doing things which actually leads to more obsessive behavior.
Try to steer yourself in another way. I understand it's so much easier said than done. Try not to think why she is with him or why she is doing that. It will drive you nuts. Think about how you are better off now and what new things the world has to offer you.
One thing I learned (the hard way) when re-entering the dating world later in life, is that you can't just assume you have an exclusive dating relationship. I had always approach dating as committing to one person at a time. Until you both agree to be exclusive, you just can't assume that you are. Now, if you've agreed to be exclusive, if not stick around with someone that can't honor that. No matter how much we feel we care about them and want to retionalize around it, if they can't bring themselves to be exclusive in deed, it's time to move on.
There are different types of love so she could mean"as a friend" 💀 but I'd say yes. But in this situation and they mean "love" as in bae, then nahhhh I wouldn't trust it AT ALL. And if someone ever says that to u after they pulled something like that then I say forgot them as a friend too bc if no friend is going to lie to you and make you doubt yourself even more about what you did wrong. Real friends will tell u straight up, "I don't love you anymore" then they can't be trusted. SO IN CONCLUSION, MY ANSWER IS, NO, THEY cannot be in love with u if they CHEATED NOT EVEN BREAKING UP FIRST💀
No that is not love if you cheat on them that's lust for the person who you been messing around with and this what I don't understand what's the point of getting with someone you supposedly say you like and end up stabbing that person in the back that's cheating and plain disrespectful certain males make it hard for us gentlemen talk to women because they become so insecure and have trust issues with people over this situation.
It can happen. Horny persons losing control of his/her sexual feelings when drunk and cheating then can still love their partner. An ex did that a few times. I wasn't angry the first two times because -being a guy- I understood her problem. A guy can easily separate sex from sentiment if sex is offered. (my ex showed that some drunk girls too can separate both.) When it became a pattern I let her go without anger.
No man. The way I see it, if you love someone then that automatically means you respect that person, by breaking that line of respect you are already proving you don't love them. It sounds very simple to me.
NO, you cannot. If someone is a cheating piece of shit, the only care about themselves. I knew my ex wife 30 days before going into the military. ANYONE can get laid coming out of basic. I turned down 7 women. In 25 years I never cheated on her...
It is possible to cheat on someone you love. It is also possible -- more likely -- to cheat on someone you don't love. Cheating is like crime - people sometimes do things they think they can get away with, lured by the possibility of reward. It is also a selfish thing; people who cheat don't care that someone they love might get hurt, or about maintaining their relationship.
But it can be complicated.
I was in a situation once where I was tempted and curious. Even though I didn't cheat, I think the temptation lead to the eventual collapse of the relationship. In retrospect, if I did give in only once, I might still be with the person I loved.
after 2 weeks of dating I wouldn't talk of "love"... he/she was interested but to really love someone it needs more time.
to answer you question in general... I think it's possible. if you have been married for many years and you love everything about them... but you sex life is not fulfilling, it's so bad that it frustrates you extremely and makes you unhappy... then I think it's possible that people get that from someone else and cheat even though they love their partner. I'm NOT saying that this is a good or the right thing to do, just that I think it exists.
You can't really be in love with someone after 2 weeks of dating period. by the way it's not cheating unless you lie about it. You see a girl a couple of times, you have sex, she has sex with someone else it's not cheating unless she told you she wouldn't or told you she didn't.
I don't think real love can develop that quickly. So if someone cheats that early in a relationship, I highly doubt they love you. But even if they remain loyal, I still highly doubt they truly love you just yet. They are getting to know you still.