I got into my first relationship, and he's the sweetest, kindest... simply put, best guy ever
But I have one problem, I come from a poorer family and he's in a more wealthy (not rich) family. They're always so nice to me, feed me, buy tickets for me, send me and my boyfriend to restaurants, buy amazing gifts. And I know I'll never be able to pay them back. My boyfriend keeps telling me not to worry and that everything's fine, but I just can't, I feel so guilty. I feel like a gold digger.
What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
There is no need for you to feel guilty about accepting meals and entertainment. He is happy to cover the expense because that's the only way he can have your company. Don't worry about it. Nice guys don't keep score.
To reciprocate you can plan a date you can afford and pay for it. A date doesn't have to be expensive to be fun, the pleasure of your company should be enough. Your boyfriend should be very pleased that you took the initiative.
You aren't a gold digger because you aren't in it for the money and you aren't trading sex for money.
I'm a little concerned when you say they are buying you amazing gifts. Constantly, or just for birthdays etc? And is amazing like $100 or $1000? Also how does your boyfriend feel about your gifts to him, which are presumably less expensive but just as heartfelt? You don't have to spend money on gifts,; you can always make him something --. knit a scarf, bake his favorite cookies, make a scrapbook of things you have done together. He'll love it.0
Most Helpful Girl
You are not a gold digger! His family does this for you because they are happy to. If they didn't want to, then they wouldn't be so nice about it.
You just have to realize that they love you and you love them and that spending time with them is what's most important. Lucky for you they are willing to pay for things for you, but just be thankful and help them out when you can. Don't feel guilty for being poor. You didn't chose it and it sometimes just happens to people. Just be the best you you can be and be good to his family as they are good to you :)1