Every piece of advice women read/get states that if a man is really interested in you they will pretty much do anything to talk/text/see you. So why do guys go hot and cold... blowing up your phone then silent. I will text someone and he will text back... then it may be 3-4 days before I hear from him. I don't want to be the one initiating things all the time, I don't want to bug them but I have noticed if I don't text he will text within a few days... what is up with this?
There's this insane game being played these days about who texts whom first. I don't understand it at all which is why I don't text unless its business related. How this game started and who made the rules remain a mystery. I've got a great idea how about we all stop communicating entirely and that will end this stupid game
Personally I never play the "what if I appear too need by being prompt in responding" game. If a woman thinks it's a big deal or something, then we obviously aren't meant to be together. If it's real I won't hold back (nor will I blow up the phone).
Dating is terrible right now. I pray everyday that I never have to deal with it again. But I fear that I may, I don't know what I am going to do for this exact reason.
It's seriously exhausting trying to figure out if someone likes you or not when they blow hot and cold. They're busy? That's fine. But to not talk to someone they like for a week or two at a time, nope not doing it. If they can't make the time to talk to me, I don't have time to waste on them. I'd move on pretty damn quick if I were you. If the guy comes back to wonder what happened, let him know that you figured he wasn't interested and so you left him alone. His loss!
I would give this same advice to any guy in the same situation. The less crap we all collectively put up with, the less crap that is out there because people start to face consequences. Unfortunately it's not easy when someone comes back blowing hot and makes you lush for them. It's really hard (been there!)
But you just have to realize that YOU are important and a valuable human being who deserves to be with someone who won't waste your time.