Now, before y'all get mad hear me out, listen, my girlfriend is pretty, above average like me. I would say 8's. This other girl I like, she wants me bad and I want her just as much. She's smart, pretty, cool and all that great stuff. I plan on getting her. Don't get me wrong, I love my girlfriend very much however my desire is very strong for her as well. If you were single and knew that you most likely would never get a boyfriend would you consider this? Should I pursue or should I forbear?
Go for it
Don't do it
And you are? I'm a GirlGuys can not vote on this poll
by the way, the new girl knows about my girlfriend and she is okay with it and still wants to be with me. I haven't even had sex with her nor even kissed her because I don't want us to be too connected if we can't be together.
Only if the girlfriend you already have is okay with it. If not then no, you most definitely should not. No one deserves to be cheated on. It sounds like you don't love your girlfriend as much as you think. When you love someone they should be enough to satisfy you. You're obviously board with your girl. So my advice is break it off with her so she can find someone who is satisfied and happy with her. Mean while you can go put some notches in your belt. UNLESS your girl would be fine with it. (I highly doubt it)
Would you be able to sleep at night with a clear conscience knowing that you want another when you already have someone?
I suggest that you either end things with your girlfriend if you really want the other girl or forget the b*tch who doesn't care about who gets hurt. It's alright to like (or in this case want) someone but to purposely not respect the other party enough to leave him alone knowing that he already has someone should just piss off.
And you, if you are a decent human being, you should at least try to feel what your girlfriend might feel. Better to hurt her now by breaking things off with her than hurt her later when she discovers you cheating (because just thinking about it is like the same thing). And it goes the same way with the other girl, she might say that it's ok now but what about the time that she starts investing feelings and want you to be hers exclusively? Now, that's just messy.
Now I know you're most probably lusting after this new girl, but there's this really significant quote by Johnny Depp that applies to your situation. It goes: "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second."
So my advice to you is to go for the new girl as you don't sound like you're really in love with your girlfriend. Your girlfriend deserves to be with someone who truly wants to be with her so do her a favour and break up with her. I'm sure she'll find someone great and so will you
'I love my girlfriend very much' - no, you don't. Stop lying.
Break up with your current girlfriend, pursue the other girl. Oh, don't come crying when things don't work out with the new girl. A girl who doesn't have a problem helping a guy cheat is certainly not girlfriend 'material'.
this sounds like lust to me but it might just be me. "I love my girlfriend very much" stop lying you get one or the other. there is no in between, no grey area, etc. if you try to go for both, just remember lies have a way of coming out in the end and i hope that society screws you over.
listen, if you have such strong feeling for another girl while your with your girlfriend whom you "love" i need you to do 3 things for me before you act 1) see if you actually like your girlfriend or if maybe it's time to break up 2) figure out if this girl is worth leaving your current girlfriend for (btw, if she talks to you while she's in a relationship, if you date her she'll be talking to other guys while you date too. 3) break up with your current girlfriend, or forget about the hot chick
If you love your girlfriend then why would you go after another girl? Love over desire man, dont make decisions with the wrong head.