Seriously, no matter what you look like, all you have to do is be confident, dress well, smell good, make sure your hair doesn't look bad, and stay fit. Why is this so hard now? Confidence shouldn't be hard because you just gotta keep in mind that you have nothing to lose and the girl who you are approaching is a human being just like you. Be confident and be funny and it should be no problem. Sure, there are girls out there who demand guys to be rich but there are enough girls out there who don't. Just don't be homeless or lazy. Plus being buff and tall isn't even that necessary for you guys to attract girls. Personally, if I was either white, light skinned guy of another race (whether Hispanic, Middle Eastern, or even light skinned Indian), or a black guy, I believe I would have done just fine when it came to girls. You guys have such a huge upperhand when it comes to attracting girls yet I see quite a few of you struggling badly. I'd consider myself lucky if I was you and take full advantage of it. Just knowing that you're white, light skinned, or black should be enough to give you confidence since you have a huge advantage over the rest of the other guys in order to attract girls.
Most Helpful Girl
Well, you pretty much answered this yourself: they probably either have no confidence or "game," aren't doing anything with their lives, aren't active and healthy, don't dress nicely, etc.
There are other more specific reasons, too, though. For example, rudeness or obnoxiousness. Or... maybe they're just really unattractive, and thus have a harder time attracting girls (attractive and unattractive people exist in all races). Or maybe they're okay-looking, but the only girls they go after are super insanely attractive and uninterested. The list goes on. Maybe they have a mental illness, like depression or anxiety, that prevents them from being positive or themselves.
You have to take a person's past into consideration when thinking about why they are the way they are. We are a result of both our genes and our environments.
Anyway, I'm a little confused about your intent. You make it sound like you don't fit in with "white, light skinned guys of other races, or black guys." What else is there? / What else would you consider yourself? You look Middle Eastern to me, so wouldn't you fit in with the "light skinned guys of other races?" I hope I don't sound ignorant; I'm just genuinely curious!0
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Honestly, this kinda sounds like sour grapes based on the false idea some people have that white people hold some magic position in the social hierarchy. That's laughable, because there are plenty of white guys whose lives no one would ever envy.
I don't think any guy has an advantage over other guys solely based on his skin color or ethnicity. There are plenty of girls who prefer black or Latino guys, so in those cases, white guys are at a disadvantage. The real advantage is in how one looks (height, fitness, facial attractiveness) and the persona that one projects to the girls he meets. A muscular black athlete has a huge advantage in dating over a short, fat, nerdy white guy. Same goes for guys of any race.
The problem some black and Latino guys encounter is that they don't really know how to interact with white girls. These guys might hate white people in general, yet they wonder why they can't connect with a certain hot white girl. Their egos tell them that their game is bulletproof, so they chalk it up to some racial bias that favors white guys. Not true. The reality is that the game that works on black girls and Latinas usually doesn't work on white girls.1