My girlsfriend and I had a disccusion, the whole guy friend thing which I dont mind even though I hate them all like any boyfriend would. I dont care that she hangs out with them (I do but I won't tell her that) and its fine if they hang out and shit but she thinks its okay to let her guy friends grab her ass which I told her I was obviously not okay with. I understand she's been single for a LOOONG time and getting into a relationship is a bit of a big change..
She said she wouldn't do it anymore but that she started to say that I was being unreasonable and wayy to jealous. I think that a guy grabbing her ass is very disrespectfull to me.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think that is unreasonable, but I also don;'t think every man has a problem with his girlfriend having male friends. If he is insecure in his relationship then yes, but that's an issue you should work on yourself so you don't encounter issues in the future.0
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Its not unreasonable for you to be concerned that she isn't taking YOUR feelings into consideration. There's nothing wrong with a woman having guy friends, and vice-versa, but there is an issue when that party cannot understand where "the line" is and at what point they cross it, particularly in the eyes of their partner.
Talk to her, as working yourself into apoplexy will likely give her and her friends the excuse needed to paint you as a "problem boyfriend," a control freak (though understand that I am not calling you one). Talk to her, be blunt and honest, and see where her head's at, or if she's even open to the discussion.
If she's willing to talk, then there isn't an issue. But if she isn't willing, I'd consider the possibility of dumping her. Because if she isn't willing to empathize with you and your feelings, then their isn't much foundation to build anything lasting upon.
Its a communication and respect issue, as well as one of -- as @MargaritaPeach put it -- common human decency.0