Hi, So I feel like an idiot for writing this, but I grew up in a domestic violence family, and I am a bit paranoid. So I met this guy, he is in the navy and goes away for months at a time. And at first, it was all good, we were getting to know each other whenever he was back on land, and I started to develop feelings for him quick, but I never acted on it. But just a week ago, he has returned home for solid couple of weeks and we have started texting more. As time went on though, I felt that he was constantly on his phone waiting for texts, I live in Australia and he is in the US but he somehow is awake every second of the day, I am not that great at texting people back, so hours go by when I don't respond, but when I do, he sees it in seconds and responds instantly. This also happens when I know for a fact that its like 3am or 5am where he is at. I also decided to swap instagram/ facebook details, and he has liked over 100+ photos of me going back to 2011, as if he slowly went up my timeline and liked everything. When I don't respond to him he holds things over me, for instance, if I don't reply for 3 hours and say sorry for the late response, he tells me that its okay but I owe him one phone call for that. And he tallies it all as he goes, 1 phone call turns into 6 phone calls because I took too long to respond. He has now started calling me 'my elle' which was cute at first but with everything going on it just makes me more anxious. I know I may be paranoid, but I don't have much experience with me, and the usual 'getting to know you' questions have turned into him trying to get deeper and deeper into my mind and life and I am a really private person and am not too good at sharing shit. I have grown up with an extremely controlling father who used to be so possessive and I just wanted some advice from you guys on how to deal with this situation, or just let me know if I am being paranoid haha. Thanks! Elle
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