I am 27 and currently rent a house with my lifelong best friend Kristen (who I've known since 2nd grade) and her boyfriend of 5 years, Dan. We lived together now for 3 years and everything is great. We have separate areas of the house and obviously separate bedrooms (I have my own and they share one together) Like anyone sharing a space, at night we watch TV together in the living room, have dinner together etc. Here is where the problem comes in. My boyfriend of 6 months thinks it's indecent that I wear sleepshirts and nighties when we are all in common areas of the house. He says I shouldn't be dressed the way I am in front of another guy. I like sleepshirts and nighties, it's what I find comfortable to lounge in. My lifelong friend and roommate has never made mention of me being indecent and neither has Dan her boyfriend/my other roommate. In 3 years time there has never been a complaint or issue. Kristen wears sleepshirts too! So girls, I need your opinion. Is my new boyfriend being controlling? Should I take a stand because it's my home and this is what I find comfy?
I found some images of a few sleepshirts and nighties I wear so you can see exact examples. What do you think?
- yes this is indecent for you to wear in front of a male housemateVote A
- No if neither of your housemates complained than you are fineVote B
Most Helpful Guy
I think it is a bit much to wear in front of other guys. and would be kind of uncomfortable if my gf/wife/etc wore that... like sleeping in it is one thing but wearing it to walk around is kind of revealing and whether you or your friend know it the dude is definitely taking peaks... it's just kind of how we are, it's hard not to look
that said I wouldn't tell my girlfriend she "can't" do something0
Most Helpful Girl
If you're friend doesn't have an issue, and is secure her relationship then good! You should be allowed to wear what you want, it's not like you're sitting infront of them with your legs open etc. Your new boyfriend, came after the fact so if there hasn't been an issue now except him, I would tell him it's comfortable, it's a HUGE deal chuck on shorts which don't make a different because you wouldn't see them (still).0