i haven't slept with him
we only made out
but he keeps telling me i love u, and calls me baby, and i love you from the bottom of my heart, and is talking about future plans...
do i run from this guy?
but, i gave him one more date and he was actually really decent, romantic and perfect he gets how i felt and now he respects me for not wanting sex... so were cool again and dating is great
he said he doesn't like fighting and that i dont believe in love like he does...
and he doesn't act like a pervert anymore
may be he was a player but because i didn't sleep with him he has fallen for me cause i am different from other girls
Most Helpful Guy
He might be playing you. Or he might mean it. Some guys can fall in love very quickly. Women can too, but I think it's a lot more common with guys. So it may be legit.
Even if it's legit, I think it still raises a red flag. Red flag doesn't mean anything is wrong for sure. It just means watch out. Even if he means it, is it a sign of some emotional issues? Is he latching on for dear life to the first girl who gives him the time of day? That's not necessarily bad, but it's something to look deeper into.
One thing I think is kind of weird though, is that he's voicing it. I can fall for someone very quickly myself. I've had it happen before. But I would never say it that fast. For one thing it might freak her out. But mainly I'd want to double check myself. It's all well and good to have strong feelings. But as a realist, I know I don't really know her very well yet.
If I'm going to accept her, I need to accept her warts and all. After that much time I haven't even seen the warts yet. I'd want to pull back until I knew the whole package, not just the bit that caught my attention right from the start.
So when somebody actually voices it that quickly it makes me wonder. I'd want to look deeper. I've heard about people who got married within days of meeting, and stayed married for years. I've personally known people who married within a few months and stayed married. However that's pretty wild. It might be romantic in some ways, but most people are going to be more prudent than that.
I'd just continue day by day and see what's up. See how more time plays out. Look deeper into it without reading too deep into things that aren't there. Then use your own judgement. If everything is cool then great. If something is wrong, play it by ear and see if it's worth continuing, or something you need to run away from fast.2
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Most Helpful Girl
not necessarily... he may be serious when saying it... personally I believe love takes time to grow on you.. maybe he is confusing lust with love? to me personally, you don't LOVE someone within 1minute of meeting them, 1day of meeting them, 1week of meeting them or even 1month of meeting them.. these are all feelings of lust.. i believe it takes a minimum of 3-6 months before any true emotions begin to arise...
Are you his first ever girlfriend by any chance? are you in a serious relationship or just a relationship? how old is he? does he have insecurity issues or maybe suffer from anxiety or depression etc?
I do find it quite odd that he continuously voices it, as often men don't verbalise it as often as females do. It indicates a potentially clingy and desperate person in my mind but id honestly pay closer attention to what he's portraying to you physically other than verbally.. does his physical behaviour towards you match what he is saying verbally? is he just trying to get you into bed with him?
He also sounds like he may be controlling (i read your other responses). He doesn't need to know where you are ever second of every day.. If this is the case you need to get OUT as it will only get worse the longer you are together..
Go with your gut instinct, has it ever led you astray before?1