I don't want a boring guy. That's... boring. I want someone who loves me and is a perfect fit for me and treats me well along with my family members. For some reason though, I always get stuck with the bad boys and always end up getting hurt. Like I am right now.
Like, the guy I have a kinda thing with is exactly what you are describing as a bad boy. He's hot, definitely an alpha and has been treating me like shit lately by hanging out twice with his ex-girlfriend and then telling/texting me about it while he's hanging out with her.
I want someone who I'm attracted to, treats me well, respects me and is just as wild and adventurous as me. Of course... within reason lol. I'm not into stereotypes. I want the real deal.
Nice guy. Who gives a rat's ass about appearance? Sorry for being honest. Almost like asking, "Is it the 'nice guy' who treats a woman well, provides for her, and takes care of her needs? Or, is it the 'bad boy' who is masculine, sexy, and..." And... what? Gives you the ride of your life while you need help? Nah... I'll stick with the other option, thanks. Bad Boys have THE reputation: hot, good looking, scruffy... but also cocky, arrogant, inconsiderate, inattentive, and almost unfeeling… and women flock to them. Y'know, I'm good with nice guy, thanks...
Not a fan of boring but it also depends what boring means. Average looks is fine because personality can make up for it. Respect is important. See, the problem with bad boys is that usually in the beginning they don't seem so bad. By the time you realize they are, you're in too deep and it's hard to leave. They usually give the attention and flattery you want in the beginning and sometimes it can be hard to tell flattery from true respect. I would always prefer a nice guy - as long as he's a real nice guy who doesn't just complain that he's nice and deserves to get a girl because that's not actually a good guy.
Neither. Because as much as people don't want to admit it, not everybody falls under those stereotypical generalizations. I will date somebody that fits well with me, I will never settle for one guy I won't like completely and another guy I won't like completely.
Uh, neither? By the way the definition of nice isn't boring but respectful. And guys aren't divided into insanely hot douchebags who kick puppies and ride motorcycles and dorky below average looking, timid boys with hearts of gold. No human being on earth fits perfectly into a stereotype like that.
For me to develop feelings for a guy I need to be attracted to him, and attraction is subjective. What I find super attractive the next girl won't and vice versa. I also need to find him interesting, be able to have good conversations with him, and have fun. If he treats me badly it won't work out. If he's a dick in general that would turn me off him. If he's boring and/or a push over that's unattractive.
How about a nice guy who is both interesting and attractive. You make it sound like the only alternatives are "unattractive or barely attractive but hey I don't treat you like Jerky McJerk!" and "hot but might run off with your car"
I lived in cowboy country. Honest, not boring, and hot aren't as few and far between as you seem to think, thank God.
I've never been in a situation where I went for the bad boy. Sure, I might be attracted to a few but not to the point where i'd give them a chance to have me. It's ALWAYS been the good guys for me. Even in every show where the girl has to choose between those type of guys, I'm always with the good guy. From the very beginning. Whatever might happen, even if I start liking the bad boy, i'll always come back to the good one.
Why would choose a bad guy if I can have a nice guy that it will treat me good? Honestly I think that the bad guy thing only works in movies, in real life you are going to end with a very broken heart.
Nice respectful and caring guys. But when it comes to the bedroom surprise her becoming the alpha male by taking control and making sure she begs for more afterwards, it drive girls insane when they find a guy like this.
Well there are more than just two types of guys out there. I would obviously not choose a hot guy with a terrible personality, ever. If he was good to me, but not a good person in general I probably wouldn't like him either.
I need someone who I find attractive in some way physically (he doesn't have to be drop dead gorgeous but just attractive to me in some way) with a great personality.
Most of the girls like bad boys as they all have seen in movies that , he takes her for adventurous things and at the end they both kiss. Girls love someone who is mischievous and is also very polite to her and only her.
Ugh NEITHER!! I always wanted a bad boy (not jail bait) but a rough and tough guy that has a soft spot for me :) A "nice guy" in my book is one that has like a super good job and does what everyone wants him to do, and that's cool and all, but just not for me.
"Bad boys" don't treat women like crap, they just don't take any crap.
I'm a bad boy that's treats woman good, I would say I'm normal guy, I workout so that's a plus, but I have acne so that's a minus Girls just like the guy that either is hot or popular they don't care much if they're nice, that's why they always complain when they get played, What did you expect? you dated the football player that's a total douch and has dated and fuck half your friends already hshahaha
Girls love nice guys, its BORING guys they hare. Not nice, boring. Its just nice guys tend to be boring cause they are pussy whipped on average. The only thing girls hate more than abusive boyfriends are guys who bore them. We dont get that cause we dont get much "entertainment" from girls. We have our friends and live for that. We just want to fuck and duck, and in some special (rare) cases, create a nice relationship
I don't understand this. The idea that there is a "bad boy" or "nice guy" is absolutely ignorant of reality. Let me just put this to rest: a person is who they are and are not 100% like anyone else. If a person likes another person, it is not because they fall in line with some stereotype, but because they are a person who they appreciate. If a girl doesn't like you, it's not because she only wants to date a specific personality, she just want to date you. The opposite is true as well: a girl won't date a guy because he is some stereotype, rather, she dates the guy because he is who he is, and not anyone else. If we all fell into this good guy or bad boy stereotype, then what's keeping us from all having fluid, polyamorous relationships with multiple people? Is it that we are only allowed to have one person, or is it that not everyone is the same, and therefore we shouldn't lump labels onto people where they don't exist?
Just for the record, the bad boys these days are pretty much never an alpha. Insecure babies is more like it. But nothing that says a nice guy can't be exciting or bad for that matter. Although the term for bad boy has changed. Before it was used for someone who kinda rebelious and thought for themselves, which I can respect, but these days people call a bad boy who again acts immature loud and obnoxious.
all of the girls on this website are more "girly girly" than the average so of course they are going to choose a nice guy. Girls label me as a "bad guy" and those kind of girls would never be on a website like this lol
It isn't about nice boy vs bad boy, it's the specific traits, which is why they will MOST LIKELY go for the bad boy. not because they like being abused, but because the specific traits they posses are better than the traits of the typical nice guy. Ideal they want the best traits of both.
Alpha male, good or at least average looking, treats good, not boring, respectful, to use your examples.
If someone were to ask you who you are a nice guy or a bad boy you are none of these. These are facades people employ to perceivably get things they desire. You band together labels you think are permissible or beneficial and you fashion a character to play the game with. But honestly fuck that man. Take second to escape this cycle and really investigate the question "who am I?"And then next "why do I desire?".