This is something which has always puzzled me. If you are initially not physically attracted to someone, do you dismiss that person as potential dating material? Or do you eventually develop attraction towards people whom you were initially not attracted to, if you get to know them better and realise that they have an amazing personality and other desirable traits?
I ask this because a lot of people say that you are either attracted to someone, or you aren't. There's no middle path here, and no one can date someone they aren’t attracted to. But I have personally been in situations where I didn't find some women physically attractive initially, but the attraction eventually 'grew' as I got to know them better, and even wanted to date them (although I didn't, due to severe insecurities, but that's beyond the scope of this question).
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I met a girl in sophomore year of college at a concert. I invited her and her friends to hang out after the concert with my buddies (just as friends cause they seemed cool). I really had no attraction to the girl at first, I mean I thought she was kinda cute but just didn't look at her that way.
but we developed a friendship and about 6months later I found myself really really falling for her. we ended up dating for about two years
so yea I think attraction can develop over time0