We all know that most guys pay on dates and especially first dates. So Guys if a guy doesn't pay , what des that mean? even if you offer to pay for your part they still accept and let you. or they pay and then you pay them back during the date. Girls what do you think if a Guy did that to you on the first date?
I plan on offering to pay for their part too and not just my own, but if the girl is like "oh it's okay I can pay for myself" then I'd ask "are you sure? I mean, you don't HAVE to" and she's like "oh it's okay, I insist" then I wouldn't force the question and they'd pay for themselves.
I think whoever invites the other should consider paying for the other person, but anyone who attends should consider paying their own initially. If that makes sense.
Yes, I always pay. If they offer, I refuse. If they don't allow me this one simple request without a lot of hassle, I don't ask them out a second time. While, I appreciate a sincere offer to pay or pitch in, I believe it takes grace to accept something offered if you are a decent person. If they refuse then it means one of two things, they have no grace or they feel guilty that they are wasting my time. Either way I don't need to go out with them again.
Firstly, I personally, would only ever go on a date with someone I already knew reasonably well, and I'd always be happy to pay.
However, if you *were* to go on a blind date or a date with someone you met online or whatever, I can see how that could make things more complicated, because you don't really know the other person. The guy probably wouldn't mind paying for the woman, but he also wouldn't want to find out later on that she's just a gold digger (and likewise, I guess she wouldn't want to find out that he's tight). The decision on whether or not to pay, might even depend on whether or not you actually want a second date with that person! Either way, I wouldn't have gone to a place where a meal for two costs £136.
In my youth I would never want a woman to pay. that isn't realistic. although, personally, for a first date I think whomever ask the person out should pay. but the woman should pay. either every other time or every 3rd date. just depends on if either can afford it or not. I know that I cannot afford to pay every time. and until you get to the point where just hanging out at home watchig movies is good enough, you have to go out. If we get to the 3rd date, and she has not at least offered to pay, regardless of how little it is, I end it right there. some women just want free dinners, movies etc... I dated 2 of those kind of women.
if a guy doesn't pay? so in this scenario, both girl and guy agree to go on a date, and the guy already knows beforehand he isn't going to pay because? if he forgot his wallet that makes sense, but he intentionally won't pay because? that just doesn't make any sense. if anything they'll both go dutch pay.
Personally, I would not go anywhere before discussing the finances for the event. I don't see why anyone would go anywhere before discussing this. It's completely irresponsible and unorganized in my opinion,
I haven't been on romantic dates before but if I offered to go on one then I would most likely pay or at least pay for myself.
Modern times, both men and women work so she should expect to pay just as much. I'd still insist to pay for the meal to be chivalrous but if the women tried to pay or paid something later in the date I'd respect her for it
The first date I usually offer to pay for both of us. However it has happened that my date offers to pay for her half because of different reasons. I just say "okay" and we carry on with our date normally.
I pay for everyone. It's the way i was raised. My family would fight for the bill literally for who hot to pay for the entire table. When someone pays for me or offers me i never take it, i just can't. If i do, i will feel a little guilt for not paying.
Proper date etiquette, no matter if it's the first or second or whatever, is, the girl offers to pay, but, the guy ALWAYS pays. The guy wants to see that the girl CAN pay, but, that we're are taking them out, after all, we asked them out.
I don't pay for a girl on dates, unless it's cheap (like a coffee, that sort of thing -- not going to make a fuss over petty-cash). Anything more expensive than that, she either pays for herself or both of us.
I usually offer to split the cost... like I'll pay for dinner if you buy the movie tickets. I've had a few dates refuse to let me chip in, and I didn't argue if it was important to them, but a lot of guys were pretty open to splitting the cost.
I have paid for more dates than I have had dates paid for, for me. I don't have the unfair expectation that because I'm a woman and that implies he has to pay. We want equality, right? Equality to men means you have to be willing to pay for yourself or for both of you every once in a while. I don't hold it against a guy if he doesn't pay for me, UNLESS he tells me he is taking ME out and then expects me to pay for us BOTH. Then I would have an issue.
In today's economy, I insist on paying my way in the beginning. I can't expect a guy to pay my way. I think nothing of it either way. Another option would be to give in and let him pay for dinner, but leave the tip and offer to pay for the next activity.
My boyfriend and I take "turns" now. It's my night to pay, it's your night to pay.
Umm, I'd offer to split the check. Cause I don't feel right with someone paying for me. but if he insists I'd be ok with that especially if he asked me out on the date. If I asked him out I would assume I'd pay, since I planned it. But thats just me. I have many friends though were they paid for everything, like the guy just assumed and expected her to pay and not just on the first date.
I would prefer to pay half of the cost - which is only fair seeing as I've eaten half of the food, drank half of the drink, etc - and would bring money with me to do that, but if they didn't want me to, I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth :P
To answer the opening question that would be a no. The only exception is if it was an expensive first date like cliff diving or sky diving.
If a guy didn't pay for my meal? Either he didn't like the date or doesn't have the money to pay for my meal.
If you offer to pay and he accepts? I'm not into that whole "testing people out" on dates that some people do. I have no intention of paying so I wouldn't offer unless something serious happened or I felt bad for him. Most people jump at the chance of saving money so don't be surprised if he jumps at the chance.
They pay and then you pay them back during the date? Ummm, wtf? I most be really feeling bad for their financial situation to be doing that. Sounding more and more like a hang out then a date.
I'm perfectly fine with going dutch. In fact, I always hold my wallet on the table as a sign that I'm ready to pay for myself. But I won't take he entire bill. I will also still leave the option on how we should pay to him. If he wants to go dutch, fine by me and that's how our thing would be. If he wants to pay, then I will just pay for the next activity and our thing would be that we'd take turns paying. Either way is fine by me, it's only about equality
I never expect him to pay and always just assume that im paying for myself. If he offers to pay for me, I'll ask him if he's sure once or twice. I feel bad letting others pay my way but at the same time I don't want to offend him by refusing to let him pay.
I pay my way for everything. I always feel bad when someone does something like that for me, unless it's something small like a maccas ice cream haha But even so, my boyfriend and I pretty much take it in turns to buy snack foods and it all turns out quite even :)
I would bring my own money but I would prefer the guy pay. If he doesn't then I'll know what to do from there depending on how the date goes. I assume he's either cheap or broke or a jerk if he doesn't say why.
I always pay unless the guy insists, then I try to compromise by stating I will pay for the next activity we are doing that day or hint at a future date of me paying, if I feel like it is going somewhere.