I read a lot about girls aren't bothered by looks etc etc, but honestly you must be? Personality is a factor but you've also got to thinks he's attractive, right?
You could have a nice guy but if you dont find him attractive how would it work?
Most Helpful Girl
There are several times I have been involved with men who are not considered good looking because I became attracted to their personality, and the key attributes there are confidence, intelligence and a sense of humor.
Good looking guys may have an easier time getting women's interest because they don't need to focus so much on their personality but a non classically good looking guy with a great personality, and especially confidence, can go far.
Guys post these questions on this site all the time and a lot of the time it's basically to whine that they don't have it as easy as good looking guys. They should actually be looking at it from a more positive perspective -- personality is a much big factor in women finding a guy attractive, so there is something that they can work on. For a non good looking woman, from what I have observed, having a great personality will not get her as far with the opposite sex.
While I don't advocate his techniques (you don't need to go full blown arsehole with the PUA negging stuff that he suggests, just cultivate a bit of confidence), look at Neil Strauss, that guy is not good looking and he bedded tonnes of women once he started being more assertive and up front about what he wanted with women.0
Most Helpful Guy
Of course it matters. Personality matters only if you're already at least somewhat physically attractive. Or if they want to make friends. But long-term relationships with sexual activity with an unattractive person? No, why would anyone subject themselves to that?0