Firstly, if you want to skip directly to the question without the back story, just go to the last paragraph haha
I kind of had this conversation with a guy friend, that threw me off a little bit. He showed me this pic of a guy who to me isn't very attractive and then a pic of his girlfriend (she is pretty hot compared to him) and he was totally blown away by the fact that she was the one who wanted to go out with this dude.
And my friend says that to him looks are very important and that he would rather have a hot girl with an uglier personality. He even showed me his friend's girlfriend (he thinks she is ugly, which she totally isn't )
So now I'm feeling a bit down, because I remembered I have a crush on a very attractive guy and I am not a very good looking girl
So I was just wondering to you (percentage wise) how do looks and personality mix? Is it 50-50 or maybe 60%looks and 40 personality? Etc.
Most Helpful Guy
Well, if your "very attractive guy" has something in his head other than air, he may like you (provided that you also have a nice personality). Even if I only wanted sex, I would care about the girl's personality. In that case, it'd be a much more shallow look at her personality, though: I would want her to be sexy, and keep everything a secret. If I'm looking for a long-term relationship, I'm looking for a girl with a lot of personality traits, and who looks pretty. Judging by your picture, I would say that you look pretty. With the right make up and clothing, you can look like a goddess.1
Most Helpful Girl
I'm a good looking girl. And because of that, looks matter very much to me, so 80% looks, 20% personality? Let's face reality, people are usually attracted to good looking people. I think looks is one factor where we just have to suck up to, I'm not completely happy with my looks either, but I am good looking. Okay, the thing is, I think different people have different views of everything. Like for me looks would matter because I am a good looking girl whereas for a girl who's not so good looking would want that looks don't matter that much because (to comfort herself? Idk)
But of course, I believe that every true relationship, emphasis on true, is fated. So if God planned for you to get together with this handsome guy, I'm pretty sure he'll fall head over heels in love with you. You just have to be patient and the right guy will come to you.
Sorry if I'm harsh, just facing reality.1