I met this guy and we've been out on a few dates and he has a lot of qualities that I had trouble finding in guys my age. He knows what he wants, he is very polite and well mannered, we go on real dates and he says he doesn't waiting a while to have sex. Which are things obviously
But then sometimes I do wonder what I'm doing? One of the major things I want out of life is having children. And I don't mind having them sooner rather than later, but not right now. But he is 35 so even a few years he'll be close to 40 and that's very old to have your first kid. And I'm just not sure there is any point in continuing to see him?
I'm kinda torn about if I should go on with this or not?
He's fine; otherwise you gravitate back to those immature young men (I was once too, so I can criticize). My girlfriend is 11 years younger, and I've had 'em 14-15 years younger too. At a certain age it makes no difference - but your age is not quite at that point yet.
Yeah...40 is old to have a child. Sperm quality isn't good at 40, and if you want more than 1 kid that's even worse if you want to ensure the health of your future children, but if you really like him then I guess go for it. He could be the love of your life. There are plenty of guys your age who have those qualities, just saying.
Be honest, adult, and talk to him about it - especially the kids issue. If he is in good shape now, he likely will remain so and healthy enough to raise kids. These days, waiting to have kids is more commonplace anyway because of economics.
Do you like him? Men are technically fertile their whole lives, and yes disease can affect that. Women, however; start developing issues around age 30, and reach a point where they are no longer fertile without medical alteration.
Up to you. A lot of women in their early twenties find appeal in older guys for those same reasons. The real question putting that aside is do you feel you have a lot in common and won't grow bored of one another someday?
A older guys and younger woman is the best combination you'll have the healthiest kids
There should not be any special problems the first 10-15 years if he isn't manipulative. After that? He'll age andlose his vitality faster than you do and he'll be an old dad. It will be no problem if he can live with the idea that you'll end by cheating on him.
While I had kids young, it's really common for men to have kids in their late 30s.
You might ask if he sees himself having kids one day.
My father was 40 when I was born and 42 when my brother was born. And I think he was a better father to me than a lot of 20 something year old fathers. My mom was 38 though so I can't tell you much about the age gap.
I'll put it this way, he's going to have kids closer to 40 regardless if it is with you or not. There is nothing wrong with that. If you like him and want to date him, go for it, but remember he made the decision himself to wait to have kids.